I had started to go out with my ex girlfriend in high school. But is wasn't just a normal relationship, we loved each other very very much. After high school I started making plans on how I can go to college and make enough money to have a happy life with her, and she did the same thing. I almost went to school, but my parents got divorced and I used my savings to help my mom stay out of debt, so I didn't go to school. After a while we moved in with each other, but because we were together so much, every moment wasn't as special as it used to be. After a year we were going through problems keeping each other happy, but we still loved each other very much. We were engaged, but a few months later, she had issues with committing to something like that for the rest of her life. We broke off the engagement, and even went on a break for her to decide what she felt she needed to do with her life. She still considered me to be her boyfriend, but always told other people we were just friends. She eventually started to talk to this guy twice her age half way across the country, and she fell in love with him, and just through texting agreed to marry him. Now she broke off what we had for almost 3 years and moved on to another guy. They have never met, but she feels that this man truly makes her happy, and because he is older, he has had time to get a career and he can support her. She says she will always be my friend, and that someday she might get back together with me if her new man dies before her, which is very very likely. But the break up was too painful, and seeing her every day because I live with her breaks my heart and I see no future in my life without her. I want to move on but I just can't get over her. I want her back, but her new boyfriend is better than me in every way, and she will always love him, even though they went through a time when they couldn't be together. Can I get some advice? I have nobody to talk to but my ex and she doesn't like hearing how depressed I get.

She will come back to you if and when her husband dies?

This is the woman you want to be with?

AT any rate - I would move out of the dwelling you share and start my own life. Maybe she will always love you. Maybe you will always love her. Some relationships just don't work out.

From the point of someone reading this, not knowing either of you? I find her plans to return to you AFTER the "older man" supports her, presumably loves her, furnishes her with a lifestyle, dies, to be absolutely chilling. It indicates she has no character.

I'm a widow - so maybe I'm taking it personally.

GingerKid, let me start by saying that nobody is better than anybody. Circumstances make us who we are and we deal with it the best we know how. Your life will never change if you two are still living together. It sounds to me like you just forgot who you really are. I know in a relationship people think they are supposed to put the other one before themselves and that's where we get lost. We get so wrapped up in our everyday lives that life becomes mundane. Go back to school, even if it is just a class here and there. It will make you feel better about yourself, give you two something different to talk about and help you build for your future. Take up a new hobby, one just for you. But most important, don't let the unfortunate death of her new boyfriend be the deciding factor of your happiness. This is your life, make her want to be with you.
-M.