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baby-girl-tara
Feb 10, 2007, 02:18 PM
My older sister Emma gets beaten by her boy-friend she tries to hide it she nevers comes to see me or sends me a card at christmas or my birthday I really miss her but she's scared to leave him I mean ow can she love him more then me she really needs to leave him before he does something worse to her I really want to help but I don`t no how can anyone tell me how:confused: :eek: ?
TheSavage
Feb 10, 2007, 03:07 PM
Sad to say that there is nothing you really can do. Its her life, her choice,her cross to bear, till she gets strong/smart enough to see that's not the way to live.
One of the first things abusers do is try to make the abused cut off all contact with family/friends -- isolate them so they have more control.
And the really sad scary part is her next love will probably be the same type of person.
Abusers can spot the ladies that will take it.
letmetellu
Feb 10, 2007, 03:38 PM
Like TheSavage said. There is nothing you can really do. But it would be such a shame if no one did anything. Keep taking to your sister trying to get her to get help from someone. Then you yourself can always do something, find a WPS in the phone book (This stands for Women's Protective Service) call then and talk to them, ask what you can do, ask them what you can tell your sister, ask if you sister would be protected by them if she left her boyfriend. Lots of the WPS have beds for women and their kids to stay in for a limited time. Don't give up help her anyway you can.
sexy4lyfe
Feb 14, 2007, 06:59 AM
My older sister Emma gets beaten by her boy-friend she trys to hide it she nevers comes to see me or sends me a card at christmas or my birthday i really miss her but shes scared to leave him i mean ow can she love him more then me she really needs to leave him before he does something worse to her i really want to help but i don`t no how can anyone tell me how:confused: :eek: ?
Believe me your sister do love you and she needs help right now she don't like for you to see her down but if it is as bad as it seems you need to find a way to help her before it is to late
metaluvers
Mar 1, 2007, 07:08 PM
My older sister Emma gets beaten by her boy-friend she trys to hide it she nevers comes to see me or sends me a card at christmas or my birthday i really miss her but shes scared to leave him i mean ow can she love him more then me she really needs to leave him before he does something worse to her i really want to help but i don`t no how can anyone tell me how:confused: :eek: ?
Been in your sister shoes before. What you need to do is have you and some friends (half boys and Half girls) go with an empty suitcase. You have the girls go to her bedroom pack all her cloths. And while you girls are doing that you have to guys by the front door to watch for his stupid . Then you walk her out the house with the guys behind and just leave.
valinors_sorrow
Mar 1, 2007, 07:42 PM
Find the number for the Domestic Violence hotline in your area. Call them and ask to talk with a counselor. They may suggest things that are more tangible to do and at the very least you can give the number to your sister, letting her know you talked to someone there and found them very nice and willing to protect your privacy, if that is how you found them. Don't push it on her. She may be more encouraged to call if you tell her of your positive experience, in other words, and let it go at that. Plant gentle seeds of love and she may respond.