SO,I have just returned from a work conference overseas with all my work colleagues and managers. On the third night in we all had a big night, about half way into the night my ex manager texted me to say that he really needed to talk with me and asked where I was. I didn't get his text right away but I returned his call, no answer though.So I just continued on with the night.

Later I got another message saying he was at my hotel room door and really needed to talk to me! I wasn't in my room, but told him I would come and meet him in his room. So it turns out that he has been cheating on his wife with a girl from work and tried to break it off and she took it really really badly! He asked me what he should do? I gave him a ton of advise depending on whether he wanted to try and work things out with his wife or not. We sat around chatting in his room for a while, and I ran interference on his mobile as the girl wouldn't stop calling. I spoke to her a few times and to let her know that it was over and she should move on. I stayed in the room for the night to make sure he didn't get himself in any more trouble as we were on a work trip and I didn't want him making matters worse for self... He then started to try and take things further with me, I tackled this with humour and didn't let it get serious and pointed out that his bed wasn't even cold from the last girl yet and he is married and I am too and we would both regret it in the morning.

I still spent the night but nothing happened and in the morning went back to my room and got ready for the day. He sent me a really lovely text saying thank you for being such a good friend to him when he needed it!

So here is my problem, Should I ever say anything about what happened or just let it go? I'd like to be friends so how do I go about making sure he know that without sounding awkward?

All I've got to say is wow that is awkward, actually made for an interesting story to read...

Anyway, I think you're all right, if you honestly did nothing then it's fine, I enjoy your humor within the text, and I think his text to you appreciating you being a 'good friend' at least implied he was just appreciative of your friendship and only your friendship. While that night he may of made a pass at you, he knew he had already gotten himself in enough trouble. I say continue to be his friend, and continue to strike him down with humor if he makes another pass... hopefully though, he is thinking the same thing as you...

Awkward... haha so he'll probably leave it alone too.

Hope this helps, good luck to you, don't lose your sense of humor!

I think you do nothing, say nothing, act like nothing ever happened. My concern? If the "other girl" decides you are/were somehow involved with him she's going to blow the whistle (or what she thinks is the whistle) and you are going to have your hands full with his wife.

When you lie with dogs you get fleas. Get as far away from these folks and their situation as you can.

FRIENDS?? Hell NO! Wipe this from your memory, say nothing to anyone or risk being dragged into someone else's BS!!

You got involved and now at the least you can expect this ex girl to spread that you were in his room all that night. You got involved in something that was none of your business, and he could have just turned his phone off. He wanted to be with you, since she dumped him and he had planned on other things with you.

Forget it, don't talk about it, and don't get around those people again

I absolutely agree with Judy, Tal, Chuck. You should never involve yourself in something that has nothing to do with you. This is his issue not yours. DOn't make someone else's problem yours. Don't discuss this situation with ANYONE. Rumors run fast. He was probably trying to get you into a situation to get you into bed not to talk. Stay away from this man personally or anyone like him. Get on with your own life and keep your nose clean when it comes to other peoples marital issues.

I'll add one other thing - I would NEVER go to the room of an opposite sex co-worker (ex manager not) under ANY circumstance. I would also NOT sit there and listen to his problems in his marriage (I'd be running toward the door) OR his problems with his girlfriend.

All you do is involve yourself in other people's problems and it can and possibly will come back at you.

- unless you are a therapist, of course. Then - do therapy in your office.

After reading this again - I'm an investigator. I've been in the business far too long.

The OP is also married. She stayed THE NIGHT in his room to run interference. Apparently the manager is unable to simply not answer the phone and door unless he has company.

I'm not exactly sure that this post isn't in advance of a situation which may not be exactly as explained, exploding.

Your first mistake was going to his room then after he made a pass at you, you stayed. Why? He's a grown man not a frightened child.

You need to leave this guy alone. You don't need to say anything to him or be his friend. This sounds like trouble to me.

You should just drop it and don't talk about it in the future. If you have problems with keeping shut you should just cut all contact with him. http://www.paranoogle.com/10-signs-of-a-cheating-spouse/