I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 17 we have been going out for 16 months and we are having a sexual relationship. What would happen if I got pregnant? Would he get in trouble?

I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 17 we have been going out for 16 months and we are having a sexual relationship. What would happen if I got pregnant?
You would have a baby and totally mess up your social life and education. You would be changing poopy diapers while your friends are out on dates and having fun. You would be up at night with a sick, screaming infant and counting your pennies for a pediatrician appointment while your friends are figuring out what to buy each other for Christmas. You might get sick yourself because a body as young as yours is not ready for motherhood. Where would you live? How would you pay for anything including food and diapers?

Would he get in trouble?
Yes.

He'd get in trouble and likely leave you to boot, then you will be stuck with a baby ( unless you give it up for adoption) say good bye to the fun teen years. They would be over for you.
Do your parents know you are dating and sexually active with this boy?

Do you think he truly loves you?

My opinion is that if he did, he'd wait until you're both ready. And you may feel like you were ready, but no.

Dani

We would get the money fine, he works and I have a Saturday job, each week we put our money together. It was my idea to have a baby where I love working children.

You are a child yourself. Does he make enough money to pay rent for a place to live buy food and clothing for a baby and you? You have no diploma you cannot make enough money to make a dent. Are you going to finish school?
Do your parents know about this?

I have to admit these comments have knocked some sense in my head, what age would you think is a good age to have a baby? No my parents don't know because I'm to scared to tell them. He does get a lot of money but then thinking about rent and more he doesn't have enough. Thank you for these comments.

First, no one should be engaging in sexual intercourse until they are physically, financially and emotionally prepared to have a child. At 14 your body is still developing and having a child can be damaging to both you and the child. At 14 you are not mature enough to deal with a child, Having a child can put an emotional strain on a person and a relationship. You will suffer loss of sleep, your life will revolve around the child to the exclusion of all else like being with friends, school etc. And finally, there is the cost. Just during the first year a child will cost over $15,000 and that doesn't include the costs of delivery. - Baby Cost Calculator - Cost of Raising A Child - Cost of Having a Baby - Baby Cost - Child Cost Calculator - Toddler Cost Calculator - Healthy Belly - (http://thehealthybelly.com/baby_cost_calculator.php) It also doesn't include costs for taking care of yourselves. You clearly have no clue if you think a 17 yr old gets "a lot of money". A decent amount of money would be $2K a month and it would be a rare 17 yr old that makes that much.

There is no "good age" to have a child. But you should be at least an adult (18) and you should be much more prepared.

Depending on where you live, he could be facing charges of statutory rape. Do your parents even know you are in a relationship?

Yes they do know I have been in a relationship for the lay 16 months. Why would I keep it a secret?

It is rather odd for parents to be OK with their 13-14 year old being in a dating and sexual relationship with a 16-17 year old.

As Homegirl said, I found it odd that any parents would allow a 12-13 yr old to date, let alone a 15-16 yr old. If you are 14 and 17 now then that's how old you would have been when you started. I'm assuming they are not aware of the sexual aspect of it.

I'm also wondering how long that has been a part of your relationship?

If at 14 you are contemplating getting pregnant this gives me a glimpse at your maturity level. And a 17 year old boy wanting t get a 14 year old girl pregnant speaks of his as well.
Neither of you are old enough or prepared to be parents. I doubt he can support himself, let alone a wife and baby.

Well I'm 15 in a couple of days and he's just turned 17. They aren't OK with the sexual bit but they are okay with our dating.

Do they know that you are sexually active?

At 15 you are not mature enough or economically ready to be a parent. How are you going to support a child, and do you think it fair that your parents would have to? They are not Ok with the sexual bit but you would further defy them by getting pregnant on purpose? That too is not a mature or responsible thing to do