thowed
Dec 6, 2011, 01:34 PM
Me and her are both 20, we have been together for 11 months now until she broke up the relationship. At first she told me that she wanted to find herself and asked me for space. When I gave her that she would text me the next day saying that she missed me. A while ago she thought that I was getting distant and told me "I feel like your getting too comfortable being single" I responded isn't this what you wanted your space.
To be honest in the beginning of the relationship there was some difficulties that could've been avoided, for example: on our third week of being together she would receive random texts and calls. I asked her who it was she said its just a friend, later that day I asked for permission to see her phone, she handed it and as I scrolled through the texts it turned out that this guy was her ex. For some reason she kept her ex's as friends. This led me to keep a guard up and that's when things went down hill.
Our relationship was a wrecked roller coaster once we felt like everything was good it would fall and destroy completely. We had a lot of happiness in between despite our difficulties. Until recently she started changing, her personality, her looks, and the way she thought about the relationship. She has a best friends who's a guy and it doesn't bother me at all, what really bothers me is that her guy friend is closest friends with one of her ex's. She would get mad when I tell her I don't want her near his house and she thought I was keeping her away from her friends but in reality I was trying to avoid her and him from bumping into each other.
You could say that I'm a jealous type but I got my limits and this is one I wouldn't allow to happen. She then started telling me that things between her and her friends have changed and she regrets not updating her self with them. As of now she's mixed with a bunch of emotions, one day she would want this relationship the next day she felt tired from it. I gave her space when she felt unhappy about it but she still kept coming back, we weren't even together and still we would make love. She confused me a lot because she made me feel everything was good and she would tell me that she loves me but then again the next day she wouldn't want to work things out.
Just yesterday I told her that I felt she wasn't happy, I expressed myself and told her if she loved me, she just told me yes I do, but when I told her to be honest she said, to tell you the truth my feeling were much stronger back then. That's when I told her I didn't want to hold her back.
So she left me because she wanted to do herself and have time to hang out with her friends, she clearly changed and broke so many promises that we often told each other. She wants to be completely single so I respected her decision. It worries me that the party her friend is throwing, her ex will attend it too. But she would tell me what happened with him happened and that she didn't feel nothing for him no more, she would tell me why can't I trust her. Its just hard knowing about the stories she told me about herself and that she cheated on three of her ex's but she didn't cheat on me and some other one.
I really want to get her back even if it takes a while. I recently texted her and I told her if there's a possibility for us to be together in the future and she just responded, maybe in the future but not now not tomorrow and not any time soon. I don't know if this means that I've completely lost her.
I need advice I can't even take my own right now. I want to know how to get her back and this time for the better. How does this work? It's the first time I fell hard for a girl, and I don't know how to face it.
To be honest in the beginning of the relationship there was some difficulties that could've been avoided, for example: on our third week of being together she would receive random texts and calls. I asked her who it was she said its just a friend, later that day I asked for permission to see her phone, she handed it and as I scrolled through the texts it turned out that this guy was her ex. For some reason she kept her ex's as friends. This led me to keep a guard up and that's when things went down hill.
Our relationship was a wrecked roller coaster once we felt like everything was good it would fall and destroy completely. We had a lot of happiness in between despite our difficulties. Until recently she started changing, her personality, her looks, and the way she thought about the relationship. She has a best friends who's a guy and it doesn't bother me at all, what really bothers me is that her guy friend is closest friends with one of her ex's. She would get mad when I tell her I don't want her near his house and she thought I was keeping her away from her friends but in reality I was trying to avoid her and him from bumping into each other.
You could say that I'm a jealous type but I got my limits and this is one I wouldn't allow to happen. She then started telling me that things between her and her friends have changed and she regrets not updating her self with them. As of now she's mixed with a bunch of emotions, one day she would want this relationship the next day she felt tired from it. I gave her space when she felt unhappy about it but she still kept coming back, we weren't even together and still we would make love. She confused me a lot because she made me feel everything was good and she would tell me that she loves me but then again the next day she wouldn't want to work things out.
Just yesterday I told her that I felt she wasn't happy, I expressed myself and told her if she loved me, she just told me yes I do, but when I told her to be honest she said, to tell you the truth my feeling were much stronger back then. That's when I told her I didn't want to hold her back.
So she left me because she wanted to do herself and have time to hang out with her friends, she clearly changed and broke so many promises that we often told each other. She wants to be completely single so I respected her decision. It worries me that the party her friend is throwing, her ex will attend it too. But she would tell me what happened with him happened and that she didn't feel nothing for him no more, she would tell me why can't I trust her. Its just hard knowing about the stories she told me about herself and that she cheated on three of her ex's but she didn't cheat on me and some other one.
I really want to get her back even if it takes a while. I recently texted her and I told her if there's a possibility for us to be together in the future and she just responded, maybe in the future but not now not tomorrow and not any time soon. I don't know if this means that I've completely lost her.
I need advice I can't even take my own right now. I want to know how to get her back and this time for the better. How does this work? It's the first time I fell hard for a girl, and I don't know how to face it.