stranger009
Dec 6, 2011, 11:03 AM
Hi, I am in a strange situation. I met my girlfriend online, we been together for year. During that time we went through lots of ups and downs, been into stupid fights. We broke up like 5 times and got back together. She is having some trust and other issues from her past. We were going fine in the start, everything looked nice. We were planning to meet in person but every time some fight would popped up.
But from last couple of months I have noticed some changes in her behavior. Like she started to come back home late from work. Many times when I would call her she won't answer and after a little time, she would text me and say, she was in the bath or doing something. When I asked her what's going on is there something wrong, she said no everything is fine.
But we were not spending much time with each other like we used to. Anyway like 2 weeks ago I was so annoyed by her behavior, and we had an argument. She said she was pulling herself back because she doesn't want to get hurt, that's why she wasn't spending much time with me. That was a shock for me.
After that incident we had couple of fights and one day she didn't talk to me till late in night. Next day I didn't talk to her the whole night and she used that incident against me. She accused me there is something wrong from my side. I told her I wasn't doing anything wrong. And there isn't anything going on, but she wasn't ready to accept it. Anyway a week ago she said she needs time and I let her take her time. A week later, I talked to her she said she still couldn't figure it out, and we talked on the phone for an hour or so. When I talk about break up she said is that what you want then its OK.
I don't know what to do. I need some help, thanks. She is my first so its very hard to let her go (she is insecure and has issues, that's what she told me).
But from last couple of months I have noticed some changes in her behavior. Like she started to come back home late from work. Many times when I would call her she won't answer and after a little time, she would text me and say, she was in the bath or doing something. When I asked her what's going on is there something wrong, she said no everything is fine.
But we were not spending much time with each other like we used to. Anyway like 2 weeks ago I was so annoyed by her behavior, and we had an argument. She said she was pulling herself back because she doesn't want to get hurt, that's why she wasn't spending much time with me. That was a shock for me.
After that incident we had couple of fights and one day she didn't talk to me till late in night. Next day I didn't talk to her the whole night and she used that incident against me. She accused me there is something wrong from my side. I told her I wasn't doing anything wrong. And there isn't anything going on, but she wasn't ready to accept it. Anyway a week ago she said she needs time and I let her take her time. A week later, I talked to her she said she still couldn't figure it out, and we talked on the phone for an hour or so. When I talk about break up she said is that what you want then its OK.
I don't know what to do. I need some help, thanks. She is my first so its very hard to let her go (she is insecure and has issues, that's what she told me).