Macapooso
Dec 5, 2011, 06:26 PM
Okay, this is obviously a topic that gets asked a lot, but I wanted to do it anyway because it's currently what's all
That's on my mind lately. I apologize if this is long winded.
At the place I work at, recently within the past few months, a new girl started working there. At first I didn't really
Think much of it, but after a while she started talking to me more, and we ended up becoming pretty good friends
At work. She's super sarcastic like I am, and we get along amazingly. She enjoys my company, and likes talking
To me. So as these things tend to go, I started developing a crush on her. She has a boyfriend, and I know that,
But I couldn't really fight it. For reference, the boyfriend lives about 3-4 hours away, across the state. He does
Come and visit, but he's not there all the time.
Anyway, we went to a local pizza place one night. It was the first time we hung out together outside of work, and it
Was great. We talked for like 3 hours straight. It was this that pushed me over the edge from simply liking this girl
To a full blown crush on her. She didn't bring up her boyfriend besides one specific thing where it wasn't really in
The best light. It's too much to go into and irrelevant, so I won't get into it. Well we parted ways at the end, she hugged me and I nearly melted all over the parking lot. Well obviously I was now totally into this girl, boyfriend or no.
Well when we were talking at this pizza place, she mentioned how she was sad she was going to miss the Thanksgiving Day parade, as well as eating cinnamon rolls with her mom like she always does every thanksgiving, because she has to drive back home. Well I decided to buy her a cinnamon roll, and told her not to eat it until she was on the road. Then when she was on the road I updated her via texts, everything from the Thanksgiving Day parade. Needless to say, she loved it. Said I was her favorite person ever, etc, things you'd say when really excited about something.
Well we have since gone to Disney and gone to see the Muppets. Disney we were literally together from like 8:30 in the morning tntil 10:30 at night (went to Disney, came back, got food hung out at her place for a while), and then Muppets, we got dinner and then went to go see the Muppets. Disney was just a wonderful time in general, and the Muppets night was great because we got even more one on one talking time. Oh yeah, both nights ended in a hug that again caused me to nearly melt all over the place. What I've come to realize is that I've never liked a girl this much. I've had plenty of crushes, as anyone does, but this girl feels different. I've never crushed so hard on anyone before. Also I'm 25 but there's really no better terms than "crush" or "crushing" so sorry for the middle school terminology haha.
I'm sure there's plenty of details I'm missing but this is already pretty long as is. Point is, she DOES really enjoy my company, loves that I'm super sarcastic and we just... click. I don't know how else to explain it. So at the very least she does really like spending time with me.
Now, as I said she has a boyfriend of a little over a year. This is obviously a problem. I would have asked her out already if not for that. I'm not terribly good at reading signs. She does things that I would like to think are good signs that she may like me despite the boyfriend (never saying "my boyfriend", even going so far as to stop herself from saying it and just saying his name), and even some other things (for instance she never says she loves him back on Facebook and things like that). Could I be reading too much into all of that? Of course. But I've never been one to be able to think "well I'm probably reading too much into it, better to not get too excited about it and not get disappointed". Instead I'm the opposite and think the best and then get super let down. I can't help it, so whatever I'll deal with the consequences of that good or bad.
But now it's getting to a point where I'm wondering if I should continue waiting out the boyfriend going away or put all my cards on the table and tell her how I feel, even if it means the friendship might suffer. Cause quite frankly I don't know how long I can really keep this to myself. I like her a lot, and I think she MAY feel the same way but has a boyfriend so it'd probably be confusing. I don't know for sure of course so. Anyone have any suggestions on how I should move forward with this? I'm not asking for cheating advice mind you. I don't want her to cheat, as I'm really against that. I'd obviously prefer she break up with the boyfriend instead (and really he doesn't appear to be a **** or anything). But I can't help how I feel about her, and it's just getting stronger. Any advice?
That's on my mind lately. I apologize if this is long winded.
At the place I work at, recently within the past few months, a new girl started working there. At first I didn't really
Think much of it, but after a while she started talking to me more, and we ended up becoming pretty good friends
At work. She's super sarcastic like I am, and we get along amazingly. She enjoys my company, and likes talking
To me. So as these things tend to go, I started developing a crush on her. She has a boyfriend, and I know that,
But I couldn't really fight it. For reference, the boyfriend lives about 3-4 hours away, across the state. He does
Come and visit, but he's not there all the time.
Anyway, we went to a local pizza place one night. It was the first time we hung out together outside of work, and it
Was great. We talked for like 3 hours straight. It was this that pushed me over the edge from simply liking this girl
To a full blown crush on her. She didn't bring up her boyfriend besides one specific thing where it wasn't really in
The best light. It's too much to go into and irrelevant, so I won't get into it. Well we parted ways at the end, she hugged me and I nearly melted all over the parking lot. Well obviously I was now totally into this girl, boyfriend or no.
Well when we were talking at this pizza place, she mentioned how she was sad she was going to miss the Thanksgiving Day parade, as well as eating cinnamon rolls with her mom like she always does every thanksgiving, because she has to drive back home. Well I decided to buy her a cinnamon roll, and told her not to eat it until she was on the road. Then when she was on the road I updated her via texts, everything from the Thanksgiving Day parade. Needless to say, she loved it. Said I was her favorite person ever, etc, things you'd say when really excited about something.
Well we have since gone to Disney and gone to see the Muppets. Disney we were literally together from like 8:30 in the morning tntil 10:30 at night (went to Disney, came back, got food hung out at her place for a while), and then Muppets, we got dinner and then went to go see the Muppets. Disney was just a wonderful time in general, and the Muppets night was great because we got even more one on one talking time. Oh yeah, both nights ended in a hug that again caused me to nearly melt all over the place. What I've come to realize is that I've never liked a girl this much. I've had plenty of crushes, as anyone does, but this girl feels different. I've never crushed so hard on anyone before. Also I'm 25 but there's really no better terms than "crush" or "crushing" so sorry for the middle school terminology haha.
I'm sure there's plenty of details I'm missing but this is already pretty long as is. Point is, she DOES really enjoy my company, loves that I'm super sarcastic and we just... click. I don't know how else to explain it. So at the very least she does really like spending time with me.
Now, as I said she has a boyfriend of a little over a year. This is obviously a problem. I would have asked her out already if not for that. I'm not terribly good at reading signs. She does things that I would like to think are good signs that she may like me despite the boyfriend (never saying "my boyfriend", even going so far as to stop herself from saying it and just saying his name), and even some other things (for instance she never says she loves him back on Facebook and things like that). Could I be reading too much into all of that? Of course. But I've never been one to be able to think "well I'm probably reading too much into it, better to not get too excited about it and not get disappointed". Instead I'm the opposite and think the best and then get super let down. I can't help it, so whatever I'll deal with the consequences of that good or bad.
But now it's getting to a point where I'm wondering if I should continue waiting out the boyfriend going away or put all my cards on the table and tell her how I feel, even if it means the friendship might suffer. Cause quite frankly I don't know how long I can really keep this to myself. I like her a lot, and I think she MAY feel the same way but has a boyfriend so it'd probably be confusing. I don't know for sure of course so. Anyone have any suggestions on how I should move forward with this? I'm not asking for cheating advice mind you. I don't want her to cheat, as I'm really against that. I'd obviously prefer she break up with the boyfriend instead (and really he doesn't appear to be a **** or anything). But I can't help how I feel about her, and it's just getting stronger. Any advice?