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confusa1987
Dec 5, 2011, 07:22 AM
I have this guy. We have a weird relationship for 1 year already. We say we are not serious, cause we are studying a master and in 10 month from now we will maybe be apart. But the fact is that he is so complicated. We don't say what we feel for each other, but we know we have feelings. At least I think he does. I went home for one month and he was desperate without me... counting each second to be together again. During nights he sometimes just call me to hug me and sleep, and he says he should be crazy to sleep without me.

However, he has moments when seems I annoy him, he loses his patient. I admit I am a bit impulsive, and I do some things sometimes not right, but not big deals. But he makes them a huge deal, and punish me harsh. And even when I don't do anything, I always try to make it better, to ask forgiveness, to make him happy. Whenever he needs me I am there for him. What can I say? I love him. But he doesn't give me the same to me, and although I am not expecting him being like me, at least a bit from time to time... Also, he likes to flirt with other girls, and he explain me is his man attitude and he likes to know he can still have a girl, and he told me that he can control himself, and if something happen he will tell me. But lately he has been doing it with one girl, smart and cute one, and also he seems getting annoyed with me...

I don't know what to do. I think I try too much to make him happy, and although he cares about me he doesn't think too much in the moment he can hurt me... He makes me so sad sometimes, and some other times, he prove to me he is so into me and makes me happy... But it has been like this for one year, and I am getting tired of change of mood cause of him. But I don't want to quit to him and then regret it. Cause I love him... Tell me your opinion.

geminichick
Dec 5, 2011, 02:31 PM
If he's "doing it" with another girl, which I would assume means he's been sexually with someone else, then why be with someone who is cheating on you? You shouldn't have to make him happy. It sounds like your more concerned about his happiness rather than your own. In all honesty, get rid of the guy. He sounds like a looser. It is hard when you have been with someone, despite what they were like, but for your emotional well-being, it would benefit you in the long run. YOu need to be with a man that you don't have to compromise your happiness for.

talaniman
Dec 5, 2011, 06:10 PM
Why do you even put up with this immature individual?

Dump him, and get real man, not an ego driven idiot. He doesn't even care about you, you just think he does.

Get a real guy and you will have no regrets.

Meisasking
Dec 12, 2011, 10:23 AM
I think you might feel a bit guilty for him so you might not actually 'love' him because there is no feeling or spark in this relationship which I see in others. I think you can do better than him.

Lilly13
Jan 26, 2012, 12:53 PM
HI

I have almost them same kind of relationship. It is really hard to decide. He has never cheated on me, He has been honest,but he watches YouTube videos, and checks girls pictures on Facebook. The problem is not you.It is him. Try do not appreciate him so much. If he finds something ugly on you send the same message back to him. Sometimes we think so much about someone's happiness ,we forget ourselves. I would say do not see him the only option in your life, if he flirts you flirt the same. If your flirting does not concern him, he is not interested in you. (He is going to show it somehow). Some boys are like mummy's boy. They want a girl as his mom at home who takes care of him. Unfortunately, I am still continue this relationship, he is taking me to his family for Easter and I asked him to be clear what he wants (I have deadline in my mind:p) Let's see what happens

mmresd
Jan 26, 2012, 01:44 PM
It seems like he has the best of both world. A girlfriend (when he wants it) and then the ability to justify his actions with other girls because of how gullible you are. Accepting him flirting with other girls because of his manly manners? Ridiculous. It seems like he is nice when he wants you around, but like to be able to get out of the situation if he needs to. Tell him to either stop messing around, or to stop wasting your time.