KUrban24
Feb 10, 2007, 12:32 AM
Well first off this is my first post, I stumbled onto this website and I think this is actually a great idea. All help and suggestions is so greatly appreciated!
My girlfriend and I have been dating now for 1year and 3months. Its been one crazy relationship. In the beginning I wasn't the greatest boyfriend that I should have been. I cheated on her and was not at all a true boyfriend. Things have been better, actually going great. Up until a few months ago, we stopped having sex and it was worrying me. At first I just thought it was her birth control. She doesn't even like to be touched intimately, she's not really into sex or for sex at all. She tells me that the only reason why we had sex so much in the first place was because she thought that was what would keep me around. Then she got a new promotion at her job and became a bartender. She started staying later and later at work. Not coming home until 3 in the morning. I was getting scared, I was thinking that she was cheating on me. All of the signs were there. So I accused her of it and hurt her bad. The trust was lost. I work for tmobile so I also looked into her call logs. I definitely made her mad. We had a week break, it was the most miserable week in my life. I really know that I love this girl more than anything in my life, since we've gotten back together I've been nothing but good to her. Im being the boy friend I should have been from day one. Now the only thing is every Friday she has this ME time where she stays out late or I just found out tonight goes to some house party. Its not that I don't trust her, I'm just afraid that since I wasn't the greatest boyfriend that she's going to meet someone new and he's going to' sweep her off her feet and take her away from me. She says that she thinks her "me" time is good because the reason we fought before was because we were together too much.. I thought that in a relationship you want to be together all of the time and go places together. Is this me time really just her getting away doing what she wants to do, having her night out? Should I be worried or be jealous? I'm only 20 she's 21, is it just that she can go out and drink and doesn't want to be held back by me? I know she wouldn't cheat, she is a good girl and I just don't see that happening? All I know is my head is so messed up and I'm looking for advice. I just hope that I'm over reacting and I hope that this is a phase she's going through and will be back in my arms again every night.
My girlfriend and I have been dating now for 1year and 3months. Its been one crazy relationship. In the beginning I wasn't the greatest boyfriend that I should have been. I cheated on her and was not at all a true boyfriend. Things have been better, actually going great. Up until a few months ago, we stopped having sex and it was worrying me. At first I just thought it was her birth control. She doesn't even like to be touched intimately, she's not really into sex or for sex at all. She tells me that the only reason why we had sex so much in the first place was because she thought that was what would keep me around. Then she got a new promotion at her job and became a bartender. She started staying later and later at work. Not coming home until 3 in the morning. I was getting scared, I was thinking that she was cheating on me. All of the signs were there. So I accused her of it and hurt her bad. The trust was lost. I work for tmobile so I also looked into her call logs. I definitely made her mad. We had a week break, it was the most miserable week in my life. I really know that I love this girl more than anything in my life, since we've gotten back together I've been nothing but good to her. Im being the boy friend I should have been from day one. Now the only thing is every Friday she has this ME time where she stays out late or I just found out tonight goes to some house party. Its not that I don't trust her, I'm just afraid that since I wasn't the greatest boyfriend that she's going to meet someone new and he's going to' sweep her off her feet and take her away from me. She says that she thinks her "me" time is good because the reason we fought before was because we were together too much.. I thought that in a relationship you want to be together all of the time and go places together. Is this me time really just her getting away doing what she wants to do, having her night out? Should I be worried or be jealous? I'm only 20 she's 21, is it just that she can go out and drink and doesn't want to be held back by me? I know she wouldn't cheat, she is a good girl and I just don't see that happening? All I know is my head is so messed up and I'm looking for advice. I just hope that I'm over reacting and I hope that this is a phase she's going through and will be back in my arms again every night.