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cirious13
Dec 4, 2011, 01:46 PM
I'm 13 & I lost my virginity 5 minutes ago.. if my mom take me to the doctor , is the doctor able to tell her ? Is she allowed to be in the room while I'm being asked questions ? Will the doctor ask me questions while shesin the room?. PLEASE , help me !

ScottGem
Dec 4, 2011, 02:03 PM
You can request that your mom not be in the room. But that may make her suspicious. You can tell her you are growing up and want some privacy but she still may be suspicious.

The doctor is not required to tell her, but depending on local laws may be allowed to tell her. You can try calling the doctor's office once the appointment is made and telling the nurse you need to speak privately and confidentially to the doctor when you visit.

Why did you submit to a boy at 13? How old is the boy? Did you at least use protection?

cirious13
Dec 4, 2011, 02:10 PM
Im in love I guess , but he's 14 & yes.. But my moms the type to be like I'm not leaving you in here..

ScottGem
Dec 4, 2011, 02:19 PM
First, being "In love i guess" is not a good enough reason to risk your future. Sex is not recreation. Being intimate should only be done with someone you are in a long term committed relationship. At 13 you are too young to be in such a relationship.

Do your parents know you even have a boyfriend? Do they approve of it?

Plus, engaging in sexual intercourse is risking pregnancy. No firm of birth control is 100%. And since you didn't answer whether you used any, I'll assume you didn't Do you want to be a mother at 13/14? Do you understand the physical, emotional and financial implications of becoming pregnant at your age? Do you understand there is a possibility that your boyfriend could wind up in jail for rape since you are under the age of consent?

cirious13
Dec 4, 2011, 02:24 PM
I didn't loose my vigenity , I just put that to see what would happen if I did.. Ima smart girl

ScottGem
Dec 4, 2011, 02:34 PM
Uh huh. Not so smart to try and fool us. Have you heard the story of the boy who cried wolf? That was unnecessary. You could have simply asked if you could have a private talk with your doctor. We will try to help you whatever your situation is. We don't take kindly to people playing games with us.

I hope you do show how smart you are by not engaging in adult behavior until you are an adult.

Fr_Chuck
Dec 4, 2011, 03:45 PM
The doctor may have a obligation to call the police, since at 13 it is rape

cirious13
Dec 4, 2011, 08:37 PM
How about 14.. Lol , I'm just cirious you see my name

Wondergirl
Dec 4, 2011, 08:41 PM
Curious is how you spell it.

Depending on where you live, the age of consent may be as old as 18.

cirious13
Dec 4, 2011, 08:43 PM
You , know.. Lol

Wondergirl
Dec 4, 2011, 08:45 PM
Why would you be going to the doctor at age 13 for an internal exam? And you had sex five minutes before you posted your question?

ScottGem
Dec 4, 2011, 08:48 PM
This is not a juvenile playground. We are a serious Q&A site. If you have a serious question, then ask. If you want to play, please do it somewhere else.