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ChaseMookie
Dec 4, 2011, 12:00 PM
I'm trying to figure out if I was a rebound relationship or if he really didn't want a relationship at the moment.

So my boyfriend and I went out for 3 weeks. The first week was a normal relationship at school. He would hold my hand walk me to class and blah blah blah. The second week was thanksgiving week and I was gone for Hawaii so I didn't see him but we texted a lot. When I get back I see him at school like any normal day. But then that lunch he decided to eat with his friend. And I shrugged it off cause it was no big deal but it hurt a little cause I hadn't seen him for a whole week. The next day he was sick, then Wednesday I saw him in the morning but at lunch he didn't come to see me. So I texted him and he finally told me he had left for wrestling. Then Thursday he was sick again. But I tried texting him and he wouldn't answer. (I didn't know he was sick) Friday I made sure I saw him because he wouldn't answer my texts at all, and he said he wanted to talk. I knew where it was going and he said "I don't really want a relationship right now." and I tried asking him the real reason because that's kind of a lame one. But he said that was the real reason. So I just left. But later asked him to be friends.

I want him back really bad. He wasn't mean to me at all, and I can't think of any other reason why he could have broke up with me. Also I don't think there's any other girl that could be the problem. No fights between us or anything. So was I a rebound? (I don't know how long ago before me he was in a relationship with someone) also he told me he had never broke up with a girl so I was his first . (sad face :( ) and when he broke up with me he couldn't really look at me too much so I know he cares some what.

Do you think I can win him back someday?

amicon
Dec 4, 2011, 01:05 PM
He told you,he doesn't want a relationship right now.

Much as it hurts,you must accept that and move on.

He was honest with you and I suggest you take his word for it.

Sometimes things don't work out,we heal move on and find new partners.

Take care.

talaniman
Dec 4, 2011, 05:05 PM
I would take his word and not get your hopes up of him changing his mind, as disappointing as that is, just to protect your own heart from even more hurt.

SweetChick10101
Dec 13, 2011, 10:28 PM
He probably feels really guilty for hurting your feelings, but honestly, if a guy isn't putting in the effort to see or talk to you, it's time to move on. High school relationships happen so quickly, I feel like sometimes you don't get to know the person enough before you "date" them and then one of you realizes it's not what you want. And it really could be the real reason that maybe he just didn't want to be dating someone! That puts a lot of pressure on both of you! Constantly checking your phone for texts, the pressure of holding hands or not in the hallway! He's a teenage boy, he probably just wants to eat hot pockets and play call of duty! Always remember that girls mature faster than boys, and take relationships more seriously. Next time a guy you like comes along, let him start the conversation, make him chase YOU! ;D Not the other way around.