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Churbro
Nov 30, 2011, 12:56 AM
I did doggy style with my boyfreind and it hurt I started screaming and crying. We have done it three times now and it has always hurt but any other sex poisiton doesn't hurt. What's going on?

Kahani Punjab
Nov 30, 2011, 02:42 AM
Churbro,

Welcome to this beautiful site, first!

Wow! So exciting, this style is!!
I love it, but the degree of excitement, satisfaction and pleasure with different poses/positiions have individual likings/dislikings. Might be 'he' enjoys it. Still, you can opt for OR try other styles. There are plenty, but sometimes, change is something we relish. Now, when you have tried doggy style, you can try standing positions, laying on position, you up - he down OR you down - he up, or even triangular. There are so so so many positions. But to your basic question on doggy style hurting, one major cause may be technically incorrect observation/application of the 'doggy' style.

DaniCalifornia
Nov 30, 2011, 07:23 AM
It is tighter when the woman has her legs closed, and sometimes when the man has a wider girth and the woman is not fully aroused it can often hurt a bit. Since you say it doesn't hurt in other positions, you can assume there's nothing wrong biologically/physically. Rearrange the position so it's more comfortable. Some prefer to be on their elbows and knees as opposed to hands and knees.

X Dani

Xerxes12
Nov 30, 2011, 07:57 AM
First of all RELAX. Yes, that will be the hardest to do because this has caused you pain in the past and now you have an association of this position with pain. This position elongates the vaginal walls, sort of making it going from a rectangular shape to skinny rectangle. Next, you may not get as much stimulation as you like (depending on your man's shape/size) and this might cause you to "dry up" - again sex without lubrication can hurt. So if you're willing to give it a go, here are some suggestions I have used and loved:

1. Lots of lubrication! Make sure to check compatibility with the condoms used.

2. Place a couple of pillows under your stomach/hip area. This gives you more support and better angle for him.

3. See if he is able to use one of his hands to wrap around you and either rub your nipples or even better, your **** while thrusting. The extra stimulation is so nice. If his arms cannot get to your ****, TOYS! He can use a bullet vibrator for your **** or you can use it yourself. Toys are to be appreciated, not feared or thought of as "dirty" - they are intended to add to your pleasure, not to infer that he is not adequate.

4. If he is built with a slight curve to his penis (LUCKY YOU), it's wonderful for you! You will get that extra internal stimulation and hopefully he is "hitting" your G spot during his motions.

Finally, remember the first thing I talked about - RELAX. If you try these, I hope you will find this position as enjoyable as the others you have loved! Best Wishes for you and your man! ~X

Churbro
Nov 30, 2011, 07:44 PM
Thank you Xerxes12. I will take your advice and try it again (:

Sghandwdrc
Dec 1, 2011, 08:26 AM
At first it would hurt with my boyfriend and I. Like above said, if you open your legs more it would help. Have him take it slow and gentle at first. And yes, RELAX. -also, I hated it being called "doggy style" because it made me feel like a dog? So instead my boyfriend says my name, then style. Example, Susan Style, Christine Style, Crystal Style. You get the point haha. That made it a little better, more enjoyable.

leeliz
Dec 7, 2011, 04:19 AM
I find it can hurt as well, my man seems to go very deep in the doggy position and it hits something deep inside me. I find altering the position slightly will keep him from hitting whatever it is that hurts. Good luck, if your man likes it as much as mine does it's worth learning how to make it pleasurable for you too!

smoothy
Dec 7, 2011, 06:00 AM
Rule #1... if you are doing it right... its not going to hurt.

If he contacts your cervix... its going to hurt. You need to adjust your position if that happens.

Churbro
Jan 22, 2012, 03:24 PM
How do I adjust the poistion? Cause I think that's what he hits

smoothy
Jan 22, 2012, 03:27 PM
How do I adjust the poistion? Cause I think that's what he hits

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Simple YOU move into a position he isn't hitting it. It shouldn't be hard. Find something comfortable for you where he's not doing it.

Unless he's numb down there... he can feel when he is as well and can adjust his position too. And in fact should if he gave a damn about hurting you.

You got a HUGE amount of variables here, most of them won't have him putting the pool cue in the corner pocket.

And if you can't find one that works for you and he doesn't care to adjust a bit on his end... then I suggest telling him no to that position... (quite honestly its my least favorite anyway)

Churbro
Jan 22, 2012, 03:51 PM
HHahaha right thanks