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KEAxCoPe
Nov 27, 2011, 07:48 PM
My wife doesn't want to have sex with me anymore. We talked about it a little bit and she told me that my xbox has to go. So I put it up and didn't play it for over a year, we went out on dates, watched movies and hung out at home and just pretty much did whatever we wanted to do for a while. I thought it was starting to change for a while but it all just kind of went back downhill really quick. I stuck with the trying to hang out part of it for a few months but when nothing seemed to be working and she didn't want to talk about it I went back to playing xbox cause I was getting frustrated with trying to be around her. All we did was argue about everything and she couldn't blame it on the xbox anymore cause I hadn't played it in over a year. I didn't even sneak time in or anything like that, it literally stayed put up and completely out of sight. Now we don't ever have sex, we don't really do anything together anymore. We do have two children 5 and 3 years old and another on the way. We Watch movies with the kids every now and then but other than that it's either me playing with the kids or her playing with the kids. I understood what I had to do and I changed what I was doing in my part of the relationship. I did exactly what she asked and it didn't fix anything. What do I do now? Is she trying to get me to leave?

P.S. We haven't had sex in like 5 months... I'm 22 and she's 23 and we have been married for a little over 4 years

jenniepepsi
Nov 27, 2011, 09:32 PM
Many many many MANY couples go through this! Especially at this age, and at this point in the marriage (3-5 years into it)

I would strongly suggest you both get marriage counselling as well as individual counselling.

Another point to remember is, she is pregnant, and mother to 2 small children. That is a HUGE labido killer! She is exasted by the end of the day. And very often usually only thinking about the kids and what they need.

Which is why I suggest marriage counselling. You both need help in balancing your daily lives to accommodate your time for each other, as well as how to communicate with each other. Good luck!

JudyKayTee
Nov 28, 2011, 06:51 AM
You don't ever have sex but she's pregnant?

You need to talk to each other. She's the only one who knows why she doesn't want to have sex with you.

She asked you to stop playing with the x box, you did, nothing changed, you went back to the x box?

She's probably tired - your children are 3 and 5, she's pregnant, she's probably overtired and under appreciated.

Talk to her.