Michael18
Nov 27, 2011, 03:05 AM
First off, I'm 19 years old and only want the best for my mom as well as my dad.
My mom has has been fighting cancer for the past six years, she has the BRCA1 gene that predetermines her to have breast and other types of cancer. She developed ovarian cancer, had a full histarectamy, radical/extensive chemotherapy, double mastectomy, a golf ball sized ovarian cancer brain tumor in her right occipital lobe that had metastasized into her brain, gamma knife pin-point brain radiation therapy two times for the golf ball sized brain tumor, various other metastasized ovarian cancer brain tumors varying from 1mm to I'm guessing 6mm and has around 7-8 tumors, another round of gamma knife pin-point brain radiation and now she had two or three weeks of full brain radiation.
My mom and dad didn't tell our family how bad full brain radiation is really like. The third week of her full brain radiation, she started to develop severe dementia to the point where she could barely talk or think straight within the course of three days. She stopped taking her medication to keep her brain swelling down, anxiety pills and wouldn't eat or drink that much at all.
My dad didn't tell anyone about my moms symptoms, I guess because my mom didn't want to worry anybody. My mom couldn't talk in full sentences, but anytime our family would call and ask how she was doing all she would say is "good," nothing else, or would start saying things that didn't make sense at all. She would also just stand there and not do anything, or stop doing what she was doing for five minutes with a blank look on her face and then finish what she was doing. Her thought process has changed to where she feels guilty about everything... things that shouldn't make you feel guilty. She thinks that bad things will happen and believes that going to the hospital or doctors is bad and refuses to go.
Things were getting worse. I read that full brain radiation causes radiational necrosis, or shrinking of the blood vessels in the brain, which kills off brain cells... and if untreated causes permanent brain damage.
My dad won't make my mom do anything she doesn't want to do, that includes eating or drinking, taking her medication or going to the hospital because her condition was and still is pretty bad.
It got to the point where I had to do something, so I sent an email to my moms parents and family about my moms condition (they were already wondering why she was acting weird and were wondering what was up) and gave them the story straight because I didn't want my mom to be left untreated or left alone for any period because my dad and I both have jobs. Our jobs work out to where my mom would be home alone for a few hours or alone an hours in the family car at the parking lot in front of my work if no one was here unless one of us quit our job or skipped some work hours.
My relatives finally convinced my dad to take her to the hospital, even though my mom didn't want to go and was met with protest from my mom. They did a brain scan and said that nothing severe was happening to my moms head, but the i.v. helped hydrate her and she started to talk a little bit more, started eating, and regained just a little bit of sense.
Now my mom is slowly returning back to normal, you can talk to her and she doesn't use sentence fragments. She is eating and drinking and taking her medications (I believe) although she still can't think right, and can't make decisions for her own health or safety.
Sometimes my moms mood changes, and she goes off on tangents that don't make sense. The other day she said she couldn't get something because she said something would go wrong, but I said that nothing would go wrong. Then she got mad and tossed everything around and made something go wrong because of what she did.
My mom and dad sleep on a bed that's four feet high and my mom and dad also have stepping stools by the bed to step up and down from. Just now my mom had to go to the bathroom, but our medium sized dogs were in the bedroom. So she figured that if she ran fast enough she would out-run them to get to the bathroom. She got up before my dad could do anything and fell down hurting her ribs and possibly hitting her head. Her eyes were open but the impact caused her to not know what was happening, kind of like when you faint.
My dad was upset and kept saying my moms name while crying and picked her up and sat her down on the side of the bed in-the-moment and went to get the dogs, not thinking about making sure to support her and be by her side in case anything else happened until she stabilized. Well, my mom fainted and fell from the four foot high bed and hit her head pretty bad on the left back side. My dad picked her up and started to sit her back up again and I told him to lay her down, so he picked her up and laid her sideways on their bed (in the recovery position).
Now, I took first aid training and know that you shouldn't pick someone up when they become unconscious until they're stabilized, and that you should call the emergency if you hit your head and get a concussion.
I told my dad that she had a concussion because she couldn't remember falling down the second time (a common symptom of concussions) but he told me I "wasn't a doctor" and said that a "concussion is when someone can't think properly and can't talk right." We let my mom rest for an hour, my dad helped her up slowly and I was with my dad this time, but she lost consciousness again after standing up and lost bladder control. My dad picked her up and carried her back to bed again, and she didn't remember fainting, again.
My mom cancelled all of her doctor check-up appointments a week ago, with my dad right there, my dad didn't intervene though and won't make her go.
My mom didn't give the doctors any good reason and called back and my aunt and/or dad told them what was happening, but my mom refuses to go to the hospital or get checked up again, even after mom just fell down twice and hit her head hard.
I worry so much about my mom, and I don't think my dad is making the right decisions for my moms best health at interest.
I can't make my dad or mom do anything, so I don't know what to do!
I need advice!
My mom has has been fighting cancer for the past six years, she has the BRCA1 gene that predetermines her to have breast and other types of cancer. She developed ovarian cancer, had a full histarectamy, radical/extensive chemotherapy, double mastectomy, a golf ball sized ovarian cancer brain tumor in her right occipital lobe that had metastasized into her brain, gamma knife pin-point brain radiation therapy two times for the golf ball sized brain tumor, various other metastasized ovarian cancer brain tumors varying from 1mm to I'm guessing 6mm and has around 7-8 tumors, another round of gamma knife pin-point brain radiation and now she had two or three weeks of full brain radiation.
My mom and dad didn't tell our family how bad full brain radiation is really like. The third week of her full brain radiation, she started to develop severe dementia to the point where she could barely talk or think straight within the course of three days. She stopped taking her medication to keep her brain swelling down, anxiety pills and wouldn't eat or drink that much at all.
My dad didn't tell anyone about my moms symptoms, I guess because my mom didn't want to worry anybody. My mom couldn't talk in full sentences, but anytime our family would call and ask how she was doing all she would say is "good," nothing else, or would start saying things that didn't make sense at all. She would also just stand there and not do anything, or stop doing what she was doing for five minutes with a blank look on her face and then finish what she was doing. Her thought process has changed to where she feels guilty about everything... things that shouldn't make you feel guilty. She thinks that bad things will happen and believes that going to the hospital or doctors is bad and refuses to go.
Things were getting worse. I read that full brain radiation causes radiational necrosis, or shrinking of the blood vessels in the brain, which kills off brain cells... and if untreated causes permanent brain damage.
My dad won't make my mom do anything she doesn't want to do, that includes eating or drinking, taking her medication or going to the hospital because her condition was and still is pretty bad.
It got to the point where I had to do something, so I sent an email to my moms parents and family about my moms condition (they were already wondering why she was acting weird and were wondering what was up) and gave them the story straight because I didn't want my mom to be left untreated or left alone for any period because my dad and I both have jobs. Our jobs work out to where my mom would be home alone for a few hours or alone an hours in the family car at the parking lot in front of my work if no one was here unless one of us quit our job or skipped some work hours.
My relatives finally convinced my dad to take her to the hospital, even though my mom didn't want to go and was met with protest from my mom. They did a brain scan and said that nothing severe was happening to my moms head, but the i.v. helped hydrate her and she started to talk a little bit more, started eating, and regained just a little bit of sense.
Now my mom is slowly returning back to normal, you can talk to her and she doesn't use sentence fragments. She is eating and drinking and taking her medications (I believe) although she still can't think right, and can't make decisions for her own health or safety.
Sometimes my moms mood changes, and she goes off on tangents that don't make sense. The other day she said she couldn't get something because she said something would go wrong, but I said that nothing would go wrong. Then she got mad and tossed everything around and made something go wrong because of what she did.
My mom and dad sleep on a bed that's four feet high and my mom and dad also have stepping stools by the bed to step up and down from. Just now my mom had to go to the bathroom, but our medium sized dogs were in the bedroom. So she figured that if she ran fast enough she would out-run them to get to the bathroom. She got up before my dad could do anything and fell down hurting her ribs and possibly hitting her head. Her eyes were open but the impact caused her to not know what was happening, kind of like when you faint.
My dad was upset and kept saying my moms name while crying and picked her up and sat her down on the side of the bed in-the-moment and went to get the dogs, not thinking about making sure to support her and be by her side in case anything else happened until she stabilized. Well, my mom fainted and fell from the four foot high bed and hit her head pretty bad on the left back side. My dad picked her up and started to sit her back up again and I told him to lay her down, so he picked her up and laid her sideways on their bed (in the recovery position).
Now, I took first aid training and know that you shouldn't pick someone up when they become unconscious until they're stabilized, and that you should call the emergency if you hit your head and get a concussion.
I told my dad that she had a concussion because she couldn't remember falling down the second time (a common symptom of concussions) but he told me I "wasn't a doctor" and said that a "concussion is when someone can't think properly and can't talk right." We let my mom rest for an hour, my dad helped her up slowly and I was with my dad this time, but she lost consciousness again after standing up and lost bladder control. My dad picked her up and carried her back to bed again, and she didn't remember fainting, again.
My mom cancelled all of her doctor check-up appointments a week ago, with my dad right there, my dad didn't intervene though and won't make her go.
My mom didn't give the doctors any good reason and called back and my aunt and/or dad told them what was happening, but my mom refuses to go to the hospital or get checked up again, even after mom just fell down twice and hit her head hard.
I worry so much about my mom, and I don't think my dad is making the right decisions for my moms best health at interest.
I can't make my dad or mom do anything, so I don't know what to do!
I need advice!