Me and my soul mate were head over heels since day one to the point it would physically hurt to be apart. I took her into my life with her very young daughter of 10 weeks. Its now 2 years on were engaged, and had planned to move to a different country in search of a better life. I left for Germany but she had to wait behind awaiting a court battle to give us the right to take her little girl abroad.

She announced she was pregnant and we were over joyed just dreading being a 1000 miles away. Missing her, and her little girl, and missing the pregnancy. It was so hard but we spoke everyday and said goodnight every night. We wanted to be married here, but the court case was delay after delay with her ex causing her pain while I was so far away.

We seen each other 2 weeks every 8 which felt a life time. She would cry each night on cam. After 8 months the court case denied us the right and I drove back immediately glad to be back together Our baby was due though, and now jobless, we found a family home. Our son was born he was perfect and we felt a love like no other but then she became cold unloving she said it was me that I was down about all the effort wasted.

So I shaped up quickly not willing to lose what means so much to me, she miscarried and seen a doctor about headaches which he said was depression. She doesn't believe him though and now has told me she's not in love with me anymore and doesn't want to attempt a relationship.

I just don't understand is the pressure just got too much? Is she taking it wrongly on me, will it pass? We're still living together but no affection touching etc, and she wants me to leave, but knows I have no where to go. I'm losing my whole family and feel helpless unloved and very scared. Please help me some body.

Lets see, having a baby, a break up, a long disappointing court battle, alone I might add, joblessness, another baby, a miscarriage, yeah I would say she has a lot to heal from, and it going to take time so hang in there guy, and give her space, but no demands for love, touching sex, or all those needed things by you.

Talk to her doctor so he can explain how serious this really is, and give you some guidance how to get through it.

Good Luck.

Thanks its what I was thinking but though maybe I was looking for excuses I'm not sure I can hang in here as she did the same with her ex had a baby then 10weeks later left him and got straight with me now I feel the same thing is happening to me, I will give her space and neglect all my needs I'm just worried that the lack of touching between us will become habit and put a barrier up between us all my confidence has gone I feel so weak I just want her to give me a cuddle and say she does still want me just needs space right now but nothing were still living together as I convinced her we should just so I was not stuck for somewhere to live and said I could just help out with the kids etc we talk fine cuddle up in bed but its killing me I said all I could to save our relationship just feel like her heart has turned of :( no one can believe its like this now we were the perfect couple now I resent having our son together :(

Trust me, this is not the time for insecure, needy behavior on your part. It's a big red flag that your confidence is so shaken by her inability to feed your ego, or emotional needs when you should be stepping up, and providing strong leadership.

No way should she be trying to fit another child into an already crowded house. Get my drift?

Way to late for regrets. Deal with what you have.

Your very right thank you... to let you know where we are I'm living back home and we are together I'm trying not to be so needy cuddly and kisses but I'm not being strong enough I see this though we have been getting on great lately everything seems up she met a few old friends of mine at a party Saturday when my friend asked her if we were engaged she said yes though she still not wearing her ring I don't mention anything heavy like this, she sang a love song to me that night and told me I was her world though the night was perfect we needed to see we could really enjoy our company on a night out with friends as over the xmas and new year period was very rocky, seems like our biggest worry now is money as I'm still out of work but trying hard thanks for your help

You know guy it occurs to me that what you are facing has more to do with how you handle her down cycles more than anything else. All of us have ups and downs, and certain swings we go through. Most couples I think are defined by how well they handle those down times, so patience, and awareness are some good things to have in your emotional tool box.

I would guess that most who come here are wrestling with this very real relationship problem, and taking it so personally we add to the situation rather than deal with it in positive, productive ways.Most storms will blow over if you let them... until the next one, which will surely come.