Hey people ,

So I've been separated from my ex now for 2 and half years after 3 years together and we lived together. She cheated on me but I forgave her and we moved on but after moving into a bigger house she ended up falling out of love with me as we were with each other all the time.

Now we blocked each other on Facebook ( bloody social networking ) 2 years ago, and we haven't spoke since. But I want to get back in touch because I've been through loads of new experiences in life and want to see how she is doing, as I miss her genuinely.

She was the only person who I've ever felt completely happy with and comfortable with. Is it advisable to send a letter or is that way too much ?

What if she has moved on and gotten another guy?

Just because you miss her doesn't mean she misses you, so I think unblocking her and see if she contact YOU would be better. After all she has made no attempts to get in touch so maybe she doesn't want to.

Are you involved with anyone now? If yes don't even think about it. She has not contacted you in 2 years so I believe she really doesn't care what you are doing. If you contact her you will probably also get to hear news about what she's been doing and if she's seeing someone (good chance after 2 years). That will blow the wind out of your sails. She may tell what a good job your doing and that's about it. Really if she had any interest she would have made an effort after two years. Don't contact her, there is a real good chance it won't turn out the way you envision it.

The problem is you feel you need her but for the sake of reality, you don't need her. The reason why I say that is she cheated on you. YOu mention that she fell out of love with you, but, you may have to face the possibility that she fell out of love with you when she was cheating on you. I do understand that you love this woman but do you want to waste your time loving someone who doesn't love you. If I was in your shoes I wouldn't. Break-ups are very difficult. They do take time to heal from but you have to move on and you should not contact her. I really want you to rethink your statement: "she was the only person who I've ever felt completely happy with and comfortable." Redsfan88, how could you have been happy with her when she was not faithful and fell out of love with you? YOu may think like this now because you still love her and miss her but later on down the road I will guarantee you won't!

She didn't contact you - so everybody assumes she doesn't care? Well, you didn't contact her either, and you care. Who knows. Just think it over, as I do agree with others, about her cheating and things like that. It passed two years, maybe you don't want to go back there again?

Just because she has not contacted you does not mean she doesn't care at all. It doesn't even mean that she is not thinking about you as well. Most girls typically wait for the guy to contact them, as contacting a guy is perceived as 'desperate'. (I don't know why its like that, but it is!)