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I have been dating my guy for almost 6 months now, and I really want the confidence to kiss him, I really want to kiss him and he really wants to kiss me but neither of us are confident enough. I am twelve years old and I don't know if I should. I'm sortta confused. Can u help? :D I need tips, how can I get him to kiss me?

Hold off the kissing until you are a little older.

Wait. When you both are old enough and ready and not shy, it will happen. Don't force it.

I have to go to my dads on every wed. and I ride the bus after school. I don't like my dad I hate going to his house. Should I be dissapointed and lay my head on my boyfriends shoulder and grab his hand and hold it? I really want to but is it right? I am in middle school.

It is nice to have someone that you can share your troubles to, but that won't change your having to go to your dad's. What might help even more is to figure out a way to repair your relationship with your father.

Are there particular reasons you are not liking your father and hate going to his house? Have you discussed your feelings with your mother?

I have talked to my mom about him, and he sort of understands what I'm going through but I really want to be with my guy

Do you see your dad only on Wednesdays? How often do you get to spend time with your boyfriend?

When you are at your dad's, what sort of things do you do? Are there things you would like to do with your dad? Have you suggested some ideas to him? Maybe a movie and out to eat? Or watch a DVD and have pizza in.

It is understandable that you would like to be with your boyfriend as much as possible. Is part of the reason you dislike going to your dad's is because you miss out on that time with your boyfriend? Maybe he could plan to be doing things on his own, perhaps with his family or friends, when you go to your dad's.

I have to go to my dads every other weekend 12-7 (not overnight) and on every wednsday 5-8 and I don't spend much time with him, we get one class period (45 minutes) lunch (45 minutes) the morning (5-10 minutes) and the bus for 20 - 25 minutes, we get 30 minutes on the phone and we contact each other on Yahoo, that's all we get every once in a while we go somewhere but not enough for sure

By the way I love to bake!!

I have to bake over like 250 dz. Cookies for my dads work with my family so I'm experienced

What I do is bake maybe two or three kinds each week and put them into the freezer. By the time I want to give cookies away, close to Christmas, I have lots accumulated and can make nice arrangements in cookie tins.


i have to bake over like 250 dz. cookies for my dads work with my family so im experienced
Ummm, it can't be 250 dozen or the cookies would take over your house. Do you mean 25 dozen? Anyway, steal two of each kind for your boyfriend's gift cookie tin.

No literally 250 dozen it really does take ove r!! :)

Yup! This works for males of ALL ages. Food. Bake him several kinds of Christmas cookies -- sugar cookies or peanut butter kisses or Hershey Bar bars or thumbprint cookies with jam inside the thumbprint, oatmeal chocolate chip cookies or gingerbread snaps or chocolate crinkles or brownies or fudgies (oatmeal-peanut butter-cocoa and cooked on the stovetop) or lemon bars or butter cookies. Ask your mom for recipes and for help, or holler and I'll post mine. (I'll be starting to bake this weekend.)

Give him some of the above, nicely packed in a Christmas cookie tin, and he will want to marry you.


Do you make some of the kinds I mentioned earlier? Anything else yummy? (I'm always looking for great recipes!)

Can I get on your cookie mailing list?

Would your mother be OK with you holding your boyfriend's hand? Does she approve of your having a boyfriend in middle school? Some parents do, some don't. Are there school dances or school activities the two of you can go to?

Again, with your dad, maybe talk to him about things you would like to do when you are over there. Would it be possible if your boyfriend went with you and your dad to a movie or something? Your dad could meet him.

If your parents are not comfortable with the idea of spending much time with a boyfriend just yet, you'll have to keep it to what you have already. In the meantime, think of some ways to build your relationship with your dad. Ask your mom for some ideas. Ask your dad about what he would like to do when you are over.

If you don't have a very good relationship with him, and don't feel that you can talk to him face to face, maybe write him a letter to share some of the things that concern you or things you wish you could do together.

How long have your parents been separated? Is is something new and you are still adjusting to the situation?

@WG, we make cut out cookies (sugar)

@DoulaC, no I don't want my dad to meet him, my mom knows I'm dating him I'm not sure if she knows we have held hands but we have. My parents have been apart for ummm,8 years, and I won't talk to my dad face to face, or write a letter. I don't want to cantact him in any way. I JUST WANT TO KNOW IF ITS All right!? Sorry that's all I want to know (not trying to be mean but that's all I asked)

Do you make them into Christmas shapes, as cutouts? Do you put sugar or colored sprinkles on them?

You're not being mean at all... :) It would really be up to your mom and you to decide if holding hands is OK. Like I said, some parents may be OK with it, others may not.

The last thing you want is for your mother to think you are doing things behind her back. She already knows you have a boyfriend, so best to talk to her about it. My guess is that she will be OK with it if she is OK with you having a boyfriend.

I asked her she said it was fine

That's good to know... :)

Do you make them into Christmas shapes, as cutouts? Do you put sugar or colored sprinkles on them?

Yeah, we did shapes last year this year we are just doing circles, (they are easier to frost !) we use sugar sprinkles

I was talking on the phone with my boyfriend today and he said that he was ordering a christmas gift, and I asked for who? He said you (me), and I never really thought about what to get him for christmas. We are in middle school, he's not really into video games or football or in any sports, he likes drumming and I was thinking of drumsticks but they are sortta pricy. Any other ideas?

So do you think its OK?

I think he will love some drumsticks, and look around, you can find some that's reasonably priced.