CZW86
Nov 19, 2011, 10:15 PM
Both threads were merged together for the whole story
So, I'm in a real bind here and need some outside advice. There's a girl who I've been talking to and socially seeing. We've hung out (just the two of us), went out socially, and both admitted that we have strong feelings for each other.
My problem lies in her ex. We started talking as friends shortly after their break up. He's put her through hell and back again. She's told me countless times how he says he's changed and everything will be better a million times and always reverts back to his old ways. I've gone through it with her as a friend twice now.
Now, about a month later, he's telling her how much he's changed and that he's made so many mistakes in the past and has learned from them and wants a second chance. She hasn't come out and said it, but the feeling is there that she's kind of "teetering" on it. I want to tell her that after we've talked to each other about our situations and feelings, that I'm the guy she needs to be with forever.
I'm not a hopeless romantic but I think about her all the time and think about what it would be like with me and her in the future (marriage way down the road lol). How do I tell her that I love her without just coming out and saying he's a pile or seeming like I'm overbearing on the situation?
I really do know that I love her. Just haven't told her yet.
I'm a twenty five year old guy who was married for 5 years and recently am divorced. I left for deployment and when I did she took my house, car, furnishings, kids, and everything in between. I'm still standing but every time I start to get even the smallest sort of "liking" feelings towards a girl, I get cold feet and run.
How do I get over what she did to me so that I can at least have a few friends of the opposite sex and maybe one that's more than a friend someday?
Thank you all for any advice.
So, I'm in a real bind here and need some outside advice. There's a girl who I've been talking to and socially seeing. We've hung out (just the two of us), went out socially, and both admitted that we have strong feelings for each other.
My problem lies in her ex. We started talking as friends shortly after their break up. He's put her through hell and back again. She's told me countless times how he says he's changed and everything will be better a million times and always reverts back to his old ways. I've gone through it with her as a friend twice now.
Now, about a month later, he's telling her how much he's changed and that he's made so many mistakes in the past and has learned from them and wants a second chance. She hasn't come out and said it, but the feeling is there that she's kind of "teetering" on it. I want to tell her that after we've talked to each other about our situations and feelings, that I'm the guy she needs to be with forever.
I'm not a hopeless romantic but I think about her all the time and think about what it would be like with me and her in the future (marriage way down the road lol). How do I tell her that I love her without just coming out and saying he's a pile or seeming like I'm overbearing on the situation?
I really do know that I love her. Just haven't told her yet.
I'm a twenty five year old guy who was married for 5 years and recently am divorced. I left for deployment and when I did she took my house, car, furnishings, kids, and everything in between. I'm still standing but every time I start to get even the smallest sort of "liking" feelings towards a girl, I get cold feet and run.
How do I get over what she did to me so that I can at least have a few friends of the opposite sex and maybe one that's more than a friend someday?
Thank you all for any advice.