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vaisu
Nov 19, 2011, 05:55 AM
Hello... I am a 17 year teenage gal. I have been in one sided love for nearly 2 yrs. I proposed that guy twice, but he rejected my proposal. But I can't forget him. I have never spent a day without thinking about him.
Till now, I have been tolerating all my love pain. But also I can't tolerate one thing that, I'll be missing him in my future life. At first, I longed to talked with him as a friend but he didn't agree to that, and I can't tolerate that pain. I can't be happy at all. I can't stop thinking about him, and also I don't like any other guy other than him. Please help me!
DoulaLC
Nov 19, 2011, 06:30 AM
You have to be the one to decide when enough is enough. How much longer do you want to put yourself through this? He has moved on, it is time for you to do the same. Yes, it hurts and it is a lousy feeling, but it will be better if you allow yourself to move passed it.
Don't worry about liking another guy or not right now... trust me, you WILL like other guys in time! Instead focus your time and energy elsewhere for now.
Spend time with family and friends. Focus on school and work. Get involved in some sports, the arts, anything you might have an interest in. Sign up for a class in something you have always thought would be fun to do or learn about. Check out ways you can volunteer in your community... the library, your school, churches, or your local hospital will likely have plenty of suggestions. Could be helping with teaching a language, time at an animal shelter, a church program, hospital volunteer program, tutoring young children, etc.
The point is, sometimes it can help tremendously if you take a break from focusing on your wants and instead focus on the needs of others.
You will feel fantastic about yourself and likely meet new friends as well. You may even find a career path you become interested in that you didn't consider before.
talaniman
Nov 19, 2011, 04:03 PM
Forget the guys, and stop wasting time on him, you just need some fun with family and friends, and some activities, and chores to keep you busy, and amused.