I'm Melvin a 29 years old male, I just want to know what's the age for women to give birth babies and why?

Biologically? Financially? Emotionally?

In what society and culture.

Are you talking medically or socially.

In the UK the latest studies show it is 34 years of age

Why 34 is the best age to have a baby | Mail Online (http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-346163/Why-34-best-age-baby.html)

Well We currently living in San Antonio TX, USA but in dec 15 we're back to El Salvador our homecountry, I ask this because she says the best age to get a baby it's between 34 and 38 years old.
I'm eager to show her that's not true.

Why is it an issue to you ? Do you not want to have a baby ?

I want to be father but as I further know it's the risk too younger and too older women run at this period..
It's wrong to have the fatherhood sense to you?
I don't.

Also important is your financial stability with a good job, a secure home to live in, friends and family around to help, and a loving (and married?) relationship between the new mother and father.

How old is she?

There are great 25 year old mothers and fathers. I know great ones that are 40. The plans made and maturity of the parents are more important than an age. Age is more of a issue for actual child birth if they are too young or too old.

I know that but my question hasn't been responded,
I restate my question: what's the natural or biological women age to have a baby?
I'm 29 and she has 32 but she needs to start a fertility process because she's having problems to get pregnant.
What should we do?

Now you're asking a totally different question.

What fertility doctors and facilities are available in your home country?

Have you been tested?

We have it, however she doesn't want to take the treatment for the fertility..
What should I do?
Stay with her or leave her?
Advise me please?

Now the question has changed again!

Have you been tested? Testing a man is the easy first step.

Yes I have, she told me her problem and I said no mater I'll stay with you.
Now she's thinking to make several trips overseas and spend 02 or 03 years more to be a mother, during this time we haven't have sexual relations. This means any fertility treatment or the beginning of a new family haven't started yet.
What's your proffession?

Yes I have, she told me her problem and I said no mater I'll stay with you.
I'm glad to hear that. You love her very much.

Now she's thinking to make several trips overseas and spend 02 or 03 years more to be a mother, during this time we haven't have sexual relations. This means any fertility treatment or the beginning of a new family haven't started yet.
That sounds like you want to get busy NOW with creating a baby and getting fertility help, if needed, and not wait any longer. Am I correct?

What's your proffession?
I have been a librarian for 30 years and a professional counselor for 20 years.

What I can notice in your words it's that you're aimed my thoughts into a merely sexual relation instead of stablishing a real and permanent family.
That's the way how a baby can be made there's no other option, I need to figure out the way she wanted to have a family and get marry with me I love her but I'm afraid I'll fed up and leave her bytheway.
Her age matters me and worry me,plus the fertility problems she has probably will never became a proud father with her, a baby will change completely the sense of my life I need it to get powers to keep ongoing.
We both are teachers.

Please forgive my inability to speak your native language (Spanish?) -- that would make this so much easier and would help me ask better questions. I am trying very hard to ask helpful ones so I understand the situation.


What I can notice in your words it's that you're aimed my thoughts into a merely sexual relation instead of stablishing a real and permanent family.
Not just that, but you love her too and want to be with her as her husband and be a family with her and the children you have together.

That's the way how a baby can be made there's no other option, I need to figure out the way she wanted to have a family and get marry with me I love her
There are many ways to make a baby. Have the two of you been trying to make her pregnant? I'm still not clear about that.

I'm afraid I'll fed up and leave her bytheway.
This means you will get tired of waiting for her to finally want to get pregnant or decide to have fertility treatments, if they are needed?

her age matters me and worry me,
You are afraid she will be too old to get pregnant or want children if you wait any longer?

plus the fertility problems she has probably will never became a proud father with her
You KNOW she has fertility problems?

a baby will change completely the sense of my life I need it to get powers to keep ongoing.
So, if this woman will not or cannot have a baby with you, you will leave her so that you can have children with someone else?

we both are teachers.
I was a teacher before I was a librarian. What ages do you and she teach?

Yes. You right probably when she turns 35 or 36 might be too late for me because I don't want she or the baby have any die risk.
I know she has pregnancy problems because she have told me that was the first barrier she said but I accepted her, we haven't had sex yet because she said not until we got married.
I would be desperate for her to make her mind this means I could leave her as well and make a family with other girl, I love her but unfortunately for me age does matter.
We have been teaching for 08 years in schools.

I know she has pregnancy problems because she have told me
How does she know this?

I don't know.
The thing it's she told me that, what I can infer it's that probably she has taken other tests to have the diagnostic.
Why? Have you heard women lie about this to get any advantage or test men?

I don't know.
the thing it's she told me that, what I can infer it's that probably she has taken other tests to have the diagnostic.
Why? have you heard women lie about this to get any advantage or test men?
You said she doesn't want to have sex until marriage, so I wondered how she knew she had fertility problems.

A test for men is VERY easy with a very fast answer. That should always be the first effort if a couple cannot conceive after maybe four or five years.

Does she have any medical conditions that may have her believing she cannot conceive naturally?

Yes, she doen't want to have sex until marriage so this becomes dark due to her resistance to marry and have our own kids.
Do you think another woman deserves me to make her happy for the rest of the life? Or should I stay for a while and see what's going on?

When would the two of you marry?

So she does or does not have fertility concerns?

Well, that what she told me..
She has all her organs working properly, no she isn't taking any medication.

I know this is a counseling and no treatment would start without madical prescription.

So, as far as you know, she could get pregnant on her wedding night.

The main problem seems to be, do you want to wait for her to decide to marry you. Is that correct?

Well this is another thing she says she's able to start a fertility treament first, she trust in it.
Ok. As I told you before we're living in USA just for this year so when we're back she wants to take 02 or 03 years more to make trips and study, so she will turns 35 or 36.
I told her I want to get marry by dec. 2012 and have kids as soon as possible but she's saying that isn't the proper age to have babies.
I tell you that I'm at the edge of the line pretty close to warp up everything and look for another girl, she's special but has that problem.

May I have your e-mail to get in touch just in case future inquiries come to my life?

How old is the other woman and would she marry you?

Please post again on this thread as time goes on, so others may see the progress of your situation.

Might be, but the thing it's time it's running and don't see any light through out the tunnel.
She has other plans for next year and the possibility to get marry and have kids it's not clear.

I told her about my feelings but still a little skepticed.

You have to do what is best for you.

Well, I have other options with women younger than me but haven't had everything I lived with this one.
One of those it's an american girl so I can get the residency of the US.
And another in El Salvador(it means I'm not unfaithful) they are around me watching what I'm doing.



Excuse me, are you asking me to do the best I can or are telling me that I have done the best from me and definetely have to look over another woman?

I am saying you must look at the entire situation and make a decision eventually. Ask yourself if you are willing to wait for this woman. If you are not, what then?

Yep..
She's special but I must to have kids to keep alive, I had a terrible life without care, have seen horrible things which could be cure just with a woman like that but this is almost the end of everything.

Stay in touch and let us know what you decide to do.

Where? At this very place or where?

Yes, here on this thread would be the best.

I don't know if you'll be the same person but anyway I'll let you know how's the relation is ongoing/..

Thank you so so much.

I've been here for over four years, so I plan to be the same person -- unless I die or something. I will watch for your posts.

Sorry guy, but this doesn't smell right. I can see waiting for sex until you are married but are you living together already, or did I misread?

Secondly there is no guarantee of babies or a smooth swift pregnancy at any age, and that's for a doctor to help you with.. But what throws me off is this fertility issue, and why she would need treatments. There has to be a reason, like maybe she tried before and couldn't get pregnant.

Whatever the reason she has this knowledge, I think I am more worried about your commitment than anything, as being a father is a gift, and a big commitment, but should take a back seat until the RIGHT female comes along that you can commit to, or there will be many problems to interfere in that fatherhood.

Those are the thing that has to come first, and you should really consider seeing YOUR female as more than just a baby outlet, or trust me, you doom your unborn to many of the problems that you say you have gone through. In addition, just looking to make any female your baby mama without being sure, is a disaster, and you have already said that making babies is your goal. To be honest that's backward, as any female no matter her health can have complications, and hardships with childbearing, and you would leave if it doesn't go right, as planned?

No guy, wait for the right one who tells all, shares all, and YOU do the same, before you go with the baby making stuff. Just to get to your original question. Opinions vary but men and woman can make babies into their late 60's/70's, with good health and the right medical care, and advice. So forget the age/time limits, wait until you find the one who will be a good life companion to you whether she has children or not, or you are asking for a lot of trouble.

Heck, you may as well be sowing your wild oats now, because waiting for this one sounds to complicated to even think of marrying her, just my opinion.I think you take a lot more time, and get a LOT MORE INFORMATION and facts about this female, or any other if you so choose, BEFORE you make her a baby mama, or a life partner.

Like most things in life, its easy to get into, but hard as hell to get out of, and many men have gone into this with high hopes, and good intentions, only to cut and run when the reality, or some other disaster hits. You end up without the life partner kids, and hate each other when you find out that you hate each others guts.

You think its an easy thing to leave because a woman cannot have children? Wait until she has 6, and then try running away. It ain't that simple at all!

Well, I don't know what your culture it's but ours it's for sure different from yours, why do you have to wait until you're a senior you won't have forces and adrenaline enough to play and hang out with your kids why too old?

I think you lost some details, no we aren't living together but she told me she has fertility problems that what she said, also I respect her rule no sex until marriage but how do I know she has that problem.
Fatherhood it's not a goal for me it's just the fuel to recharge my life hope, besides I've seen so many guys who die before get marry or achieve studies I won't be one of those.
What's more important to you trips or marry and have a family?

but she told me she has fertility problems that what she said, also I respect her rule no sex until marriage but how do I know she has that problem.

You mean you haven't asked? I would have!

Yes my culture is different. Here we have MANY who have spent their lives being married, MANY times, and having MANY children.

Once is enough for me however.

For our budget we have to have just 02 or 03 to provide them an excellent education.
And also have just one couple if possible for the rest of the life to avoid illness.

I think you better start getting more info with some deeper conversations than you have been. Better know all the details now, than later. Better get it worked out, rather than to blindly get deeper. Just saying gather enough facts to make a good decision for yourself.

Yes, I'm gathering all the possible data to make my mind in the coming months will make a decision.