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TO123
Nov 14, 2011, 02:34 PM
To whom it may concern,

I am looking for some sample letters. I lost my job recently, I was terminated without cause and no explanation and wish to write a letter to my former boss to get some closure, to move on. I do not wish my job back. The letter need to be assertive, I will not accuse her or will I take pity on myself.

Thank you in advance for your help and have a wonderful day!

Wondergirl
Nov 14, 2011, 02:38 PM
I strongly advise against doing this. You will not get any closure.

If you truly have no idea of why you were let go (workforce cuts, money problems, your behavior, etc.), the company will not tell you at this point.

TO123
Nov 14, 2011, 02:40 PM
WHY?

Wondergirl
Nov 14, 2011, 02:46 PM
You have absolutely NO clue why you were let go?

TO123
Nov 14, 2011, 02:52 PM
Yes this is true
I do not wish my job nor do I wish to speak to her to find out - as I will always have the doubt is she telling me the truth

I was hurt, I lost my self-esteen, respect and trust.
I am trying to do this letter to get some closure on my side, I don't care about her

Wondergirl
Nov 14, 2011, 03:00 PM
When an employee is let go like you were, that employee no longer exists as far as the company is concerned. The company does not want to hear from that person at all.

It would be best for you to take a deep breath and move forward in your life and not dwell on the past.

Are you in the U.S.

TO123
Nov 14, 2011, 03:08 PM
No, in Canada

I understand your point of view and agree with your second line
But is it necessary to find out - get an explantion.
I was there for 16 months - I have past my probation, had a very good performance appraisal, always had good positive comments and thanks on my job well done

IT'S SUCKS - I actually like where I was working
I am confused

Wondergirl
Nov 14, 2011, 03:13 PM
Hmmm, usually one figures out the company has some internal problem or someone is not happy with your performance.

Well, how about contacting a former coworker? Is there someone you knew well enough to be able to do that and without putting that person in a bad spot?

TO123
Nov 14, 2011, 03:20 PM
At this point I think it's personal - but what??
Actually a 1/4 of former coworkers are good friends - they are as baffled as me - I was BLINDSIDED royally
No one as no idea what happen

Should I write the letter it will be on my own terms, my way - to get some closure.
I am past the fact that I lost my job (a job is a job)
The personal, emotional aspect is something else

mmresd
Nov 14, 2011, 03:20 PM
I agree, move on from this job, and start looking for another one.

talaniman
Nov 14, 2011, 04:03 PM
I feel your confusion, we all are at sudden, unknown changes that take us from our comfort zone. No matter the reasons they did what they did, you will never get closure through a letter.

WHY? Because they will never open themselves up to a lawsuit, or censure. They will cite the best interests of the company. That could be anything from body odor to replacing you with a sibling of some unknown sibling. You will never know.

Let your frustration, anger, and hurt settle down. Write a scathing letter and burn it, to vent those feelings, apply for unemployment compensation, if they have it in Canada, and let acceptance be your closure, as you move to your next job.

Impulsive actions to soothe your hurts will have consequences, so think carefully before you take actions.

Fr_Chuck
Nov 14, 2011, 05:39 PM
I agree, leave it be, move on to the next job, anything else at this point will only have a chance to make things worst.
File for unemployment, look for a new job and keep going.

vanheart
Nov 14, 2011, 09:15 PM
Don't do it. That's super lame. Apologize for getting the axe?

You already got closure.

I've been laid off a few times. Oh, well..

And dumped few few times. Oh, well...

Hehehehe!!

Join the club. Glad to have you aboard.

Jake2008
Nov 14, 2011, 11:28 PM
I'm not so sure that it is a bad idea to contact your former boss.

But, it is important why.

If you were, or thought you were, on generally good terms with her on a professional basis, and if you truly have no idea why you were fired without cause, ask her. You may have been unknowingly blamed for something you didn't do, from theft to gossip. To find out why you were fired, will also give you some (hopefully) solid information so that if you need to improve some part of your work performance, you will be better prepared for the next job.

She does not have to disclose the reason, except, I thought that after a probation period, you needed to be fired 'with cause' (not 100% sure of that point). I do know that if you apply for another job, and that particular employer is called, they will either say, 'would not re-hire' or 'would re-hire', and little else as to avoid any liability caused by a breach of confidentiality. Check with the Ministry of Labour and find out if you are at least entitled to know that much, depending upon which Province you are in.

Either way, there has to be a reason. I know I would want to know under the same circumstances. Something else to consider is, if you were fired 'for cause', that will affect your unemployment benefits, as opposed to a layoff, which you did not cause, and you would qualify for benefits.

Finally, I think it is best to keep it professional, and not involve personal opinions, or show any vindictiveness or anger. Just stick to the facts to help determine what happened, and why.

vanheart
Nov 14, 2011, 11:42 PM
Jake has a point. But don't waste time on this crap.

Send thanks & move on. That will make you feel better.
Always take the higher road. Especially when someone fires you, or dumps you.

Give respect always.

Not all ties are good.
There's lots of business & romantic ties, I never want to be tied to.

Thank goodness...