OK my 10 yr. old girl is dating this nice 13 yr. old boy they hang out hold hands and just kiss a little should I keep them away from each other

Maybe it is time to have the talk with her. He is older than her and will mature about the same time as her. I think tying to pull her away from him may have a negative response and she may defy you. So the talk would be the best plan I think.

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I can't answer for you but I can say that I wouldn't be allowing my 10 year old daughter to "just kiss a little" with a 13 year old boy. I have an 11 year old and I believe that is too young to be "dating" let alone any kind of kissing... especially with a 13 year old.

Children are trying to grow up too quickly. I would not let a 10 yr old date ANYONE. That is way too young.

I assume you are the parent, as a parent you have to set boundaries.

It is totally wrong and I hope and assume you are really one of the kids, since I don't know of any responsible parent that lets a 10 year old child "kiss" a little. Of course that is why 12 year olds are having babies.

I am the parent but they really like each other and I don't want her to hate me

You are to be her parent, not her friend. If you are not setting rules, boundries you are not doing your job. If she is not mad at you, "even hate you at times" you are not doing your job with what latter will be a 10 year old.

You are leading this down the road to be a grandmother in a few years by accepting early sexual emotions to be allowed in a 10 year old.

I will be honest, if you were my neighbor, I would report this type of activity to CPS as neglect of the child.

i am the parent but they really like each other and i dont want her to hate me

Again you are the parent. You NEED to set boundaries. Sometimes your kids will hate you. It goes with the territory.

I'm sure they do like it each other, but it's not appropriate.

i am the parent but they really like each other and i dont want her to hate me

The job of a parent is NOT being your child's best friend, but rather being a parent. Sometimes our children "hate" us for our decisions, but we are responsible for teaching our children to make good decisions and deal with the consequences when they make bad decisions.

How old were you when you had your daughter? Were you a young teen?

Young girls of the tender age of 10 should never be kissing anyone but their parents or siblings.

It's time to step up and set boundaries. Be a parent not a best friend.

I have an 11 year old daughter and no way would I allow her to date and engage in kissing at this stage. She has plenty of friends who are boys but they aren't any different than her girl friends: kids being kids.

OK I stopped them from seeing each other but now I think she is sneekingaround seeng him

So, as a parent, what are you going to do about that?

There is a difference between dating and hanging. They can hang together in groups, but not singly date. And if you believe she's sneaking around, then ground her.

I assume she goes to school then has homework. Does she not do her homework right after school? Is she not in any extracurricular activities?

How does she get the unsupervised time to "sneak" out to see him?

My 10 year old is supervised 100% of the time and would never be able to "sneak" out. He has to have permission to go somewhere without me. And I DO check up!

I let her go to the city park its 2 or 3 streets over and she has a cell phone for me to check up on her and yes she does do homework after school

Well there are the actual school days. And some kids like mine have after after-school care until we finish work. So I can see some opportunity there for the child.

So, no more city park. If she wants to socialize, she can do it at home under your supervision.

OK well thanks everyone

And you disagreed with me why? I'm a responsible parent, that is how I have dealt with all 4 of my children and they have all grown up to be wonderful adults (aside from my 10 year old) who all graduated high school or did not have any children out of wedlock.

It might be good for you to take some parenting classes

I am a good parent I let my kids have fun to I am sorrybut maybe you need to lossen up and le kids have fun they are back together but they can only hang out with groups never alone

Loosen up? Me, I'm the funnest parent around! However, I am a parent first not a friend.

I have a house full of kids all the time. They range from 9 years to 19 years old. I don't need to loosen up. I know how to be a responsible parent.

i am a good parent i let my kids have fun to i am sorrybut maybe u need to lossen up and le kids have fun they r back together but they can only hang out with groups never alone

Loosening up and allowing a 10 year old to date and kiss are 2 completely different things. You need to be able to supervise your child and know where they are and what they're doing because if you don't, this leads to them having no control at all. Pregnancy and drug use are just a few of the things that come to mind that are possible in these situations. I agree with J_9 on this and I also think the negative was wrongfully given.

i am a good parent i let my kids have fun to i am sorrybut maybe u need to lossen up and le kids have fun they r back together but they can only hang out with groups never alone

I have a problem with what's going on here. You first posted this yesterday at 6:40PM. In less than 24 hours, you broke them up, suspected your daughter was sneaking behind your back and now are allowing them to hang out as part of a group.

Sorry, but that seems to be moving too fast, especially since your daughter should have been in school this morning.

As for your being a good parent, we only know what you have told us. Letting a 10 yr old girl "date", especially allowing kissing, is not something a responsible parent will do. So if this was an example of your parenting skills, then it doesn't bode well for other skills.

I'm guessing this is the child, not the parent.

I'm guessing this is the child, not the parent.
Bingo! I've suspected that from the get-go. The terrible texting and immature phrasing were my first clues, and probably yours too.

I suspected it as well, but just went along with the posts.

I'm guessing this is the child, not the parent.

Well there is certainly questions about the reality of this.

I believe it's always best to err on the side of curiosity and obtaining more information. The revelations will usually provide the truth or at least a very strong suspicion of it.

So... in the 20 minutes between you telling her she can't have him as a boyfriend, she starts sneaking around?

And now I'm caught up. Lol.

Ya I agree with these posts. I have had a total of 11 girls who have come into my life at different stages of development. I have daughters as well. Right now my daughter is 13 going on 20... lol. It takes a lot of effort to listen to your daughters as well. If you don't set boundaries now you will never be able to later. Your daughter needs to feel she is safe because of these boundaries. Even now my 13 year old daughter still needs these and with talking to me she can get a better perspective on things verses asking her friends. As a single father this has been the roughest thing to go through. I am now married but that doesn't mean my new wife can always fill the need to set these boundaries. As a father my first instinct is to lock her up. This is the worst thing any parent can do. This can be the greatest time for you both to establish the communication that will ensure she has a wonderful teen age years. Telling her this is normal is the truth. It starts around 9 years of age for girls. You don't want her thinking she is doing something wrong or that she isn't normal to like this. Then without going outside of her age limit express to her why she needs to refrain from this behavior with boys. And yes she needs limits. She shouldn't want to date till 16 mainly because she can't really go out on a date. Boy crushes I have allowed at 13 but only within school and only if I take the boy with us to dinner or family events, just as I would do with any friend of my daughter. A parent should be teaching their children how to interact with the opposite sex, if not someone else will. This 13 year old boy needs to be told very carefully that there is limits. It's hard when dealing with other peoples kids. It may seems cute to many people, but without getting too judgmental with the other parents I would also open it up in conversation with them before talking to their son. I really hope this helps some.

If I saw a 13 year old kiss my 10 year old daughter , my family would have to visit me in jail .

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