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cute22
Feb 8, 2007, 06:10 AM
I have a boyfriend... which I love with all my heart is is my first love and I absolutely love everything about him... he is currently in iraq though and for the last couple of days I've been seeing someone else... well actually I'm not really seeing him we just have a sexual relationship and I think I'm pregnant... my boyfriend comes back by the end of this month... and I don't know what to do... I need some advice

JoeCanada76
Feb 8, 2007, 06:56 AM
Tell him the truth.

saraispiel19
Feb 8, 2007, 12:13 PM
Tsk tsk tsk.. FIRST you should find out if you αre pregnαnt
But do tell him thαt you cheαted however do not bring up the possible pregnαncy until you truly know you αre.

valinors_sorrow
Feb 8, 2007, 12:25 PM
Get tested for pregnancy first. Its pretty premature to be asking advice that includes that until you are certain you are indeed pregnant.

No more fooling around. At the very least-- break it off with one or the other or both. That is soooooo unethical and unhealthy. If you stay with the soldier, tell him about the affair when he returns home and the pregnancy only when you confirm it. He has a right to know you've been with someone else sexually.

And should you turn up pregnant, tell the father -- he has a right to know.

I hope you aren't pregnant, and also I hope you end up without any partner --no, not so that you'll be punished (I don't even think in those terms) but so that you can take the time necessary to straighten yourself out. You need that. All of this is a wake up call about how messed up you are and I really do mean that in the kindest sense possible. Being a military man's girlfriend or being a child's mother carries far more responsibiliy than you seem to be able to manage just now. Think about it, for the sake of everyone but especially yourself.

talaniman
Feb 8, 2007, 12:36 PM
IF you are pregnant being honest with the husband and father is the only way to go.

JoeCanada76
Feb 8, 2007, 12:53 PM
Even if she is not pregnant, she should tell her boyfriend about the cheating.

Forever21
Feb 8, 2007, 02:00 PM
You really dug yourself into a deep hole hope you can get yourself out on this one. There is really not any advice that you can take on this one. I really do hope that you are not pregnant cause if so I hope you are prepared to take care of a child on your own. Don't think that a sexual relationship is going to turn into a happy home only cause of an opps. I know as a woman that sometimes we get ourselves into situations we could have avoided but the best thing you could have done was break things off with the solider. He did not choose to go to iraq and I am pretty sure that he looks forward to coming home it just sucks that he has to come home to this news. I hope you are prepared for your consequence

leereed
Aug 31, 2009, 04:22 PM
If you are pregnant, tell him. If you are not, don't tell him. Telling him without a pregnancy will only hurt him. It will make you feel better. You are a selfish . You cheated on a man who serves our country. If I knew you, I would kick your .