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sw77242
Nov 11, 2011, 07:50 PM
Okay boys! This ones for you... Why do you watch porn and look at nude pics.. I'm a 26 year old female, and my fiancˇ looks at nude pics on his phone and lies about it. I wouldn't be as upset if he were more up front about it. I'm just looking for some insight. Should I be upset.. Any help on this topic would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks!

sw77242
Nov 11, 2011, 07:53 PM
Also, suggestions on how to spice things up..

Fr_Chuck
Nov 11, 2011, 08:25 PM
He lies about it, because it upsets you. You said if he was honest it would not upset you "as much". But it is obviously that it does, if you let him watch it, without any upset, join him watching then it lets go, anger, guilt and the feeling that there is something wrong about it

Men like visual images for pleasure

sw77242
Nov 11, 2011, 08:40 PM
Thank you. I mean I do get a little upset, but I think it's because I don't fully understand why he's watching it you know? I'm not an ugly dog, so I guess I just don't get it. That's why I posted on here.

Wondergirl
Nov 11, 2011, 08:58 PM
It has nothing to do with you. One guy once said:

Porn is the just the vehicle that gets a guy where he's trying to go. For a guy, doing it with just your imagination is like going from Detroit to Chicago on horseback. With porn, it's like having your own private jet. It's faster, it's easier, and it's just so much less of a hassle.

But again, it's not that porn is what's important... IT'S GETTING TO CHICAGO.

Fr_Chuck
Nov 11, 2011, 09:18 PM
And you will never understand, you just have to know he enjoys it, so let him,

JudyKayTee
Nov 12, 2011, 02:18 PM
The looking at the photos wouldn't upset me. The lying would. My question would be whether he's lying because the truth would upset you OR because he's embarrassed by his own behavior.

mathewcostin
Nov 22, 2011, 07:12 AM
Leave the relationship for now. Deal with your emotions about it, work out why you're upset and feel those feelings. Then ask him, will you deal with your addiction and sexual projections at others, or is our relationship over? His choice.

excon
Nov 22, 2011, 07:48 AM
Hello s:

I don't know why men do what they do... Do you read romance novels?? Why? Do they make you moist??

excon