Can't bring it up without her getting mad and she always tells me that's she is to tired

How do you approach the topic? I would advise it's more 'wanting more romance' instead of 'I wish you'd do me more often'. She may be stressed, she could even be feeling the same. Good communication is essential in a healthy relationship, so you do both need a chat.

X Dani

For the first couple of years in a relationship women will have sex with you to impress you and keep you happy but maybe (putting it bluntly) it got boring? After so many years of being together she may feel that she doesn't need to put out as much because she knows you love her. Do you have foreplay for longer than 5 minutes? The foreplay is the important part of sex. Speaking from personal experience, if I found sex boring and frequently didn't orgasm I would stop wanting to have it. Maybe spice it up abit? ( I don't know your techniques I'm just making logical guesses) Other than it getting monotonous maybe she is insecure about her body or if she is on certain kinds of contraception that can suppress the sexual appetite. Sorry if this isn't helpful. Best I can think of with the lack of information. Good luck!

For the first couple of years in a relationship women will have sex with you to impress you and keep you happy but maybe (putting it bluntly) it got boring? After so many years of being together she may feel that she doesn't need to put out as much because she knows you love her.


I think you are speaking in generalities and that this particular generality is incorrect.

Women have sex to impress men and keep them happy but then once a woman feels loved she doesn't "put out as much"?

Don't believe it.

I agree. I began sleeping with my current partner when I felt we were at the stage in the relationship to share our emotions in a more personal way. Not as I wanted to be sexy for him and impress him.

Tell your partner exactly what you want. Don't force them into anything, and always be willing to compromise.

X Dani