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Well I have a boyfriend, he is sweet, nice, all my friends say he is the best boyfriend but I don't really see it, like he is a good friend, and everything but I am a die hard romantic and he doesn't even know the meaning of the word. A while ago some stuff happened with another guy that basically ruined my life, and ever since then it has been hard to trust again. So anyway my boyfriend is what I call innocent, he hasn't had his heart broken the way I have so, it is hard to relate to each other sometimes, but he is head over heels for me, and I know it.

Also my boyfriend has this friend, his best friend since they were four, and I met him a while ago and we clicked, we have so much in common, he is so funny, sweet, caring, he has had his heart broken, and he loves to make me feel special because we are now best friends. But I am falling in love with him, and I don't know what to do. I can't dump my boyfriend, it would break his heart and it would also be complicated because then his friend might not go out with me, and I don't want to lose them both, but my boyfriend reminds me of the guy who broke my heart, and his best friend is what I want, but my best friend also likes my boyfriend's best friend, and he likes her, but she is the same as my boyfriend, innocent, and we both agreed its hard to go out with innocent people.

I'm really stuck, can someone please help because I honestly don't know what to do, if my best friend goes out with him, I will die inside, and it will probably end in our first fight. But I don't know how to go out with him without starting a fight between him and my boyfriend, PLEASE HELP ITS URGENT!

So there was this guy, he is 18 I'm 15 and we didsome stuff I'm not proud of. Anyway so we moved on and we don't talk anymore but he is constantly on my mind and he broke my heart so much and now I can't love again properly but I don't know how to get him out of my mind,can someone please help?

He sounds like a bit of a scumbag. That enough should give you the will to!

Okay honey. Keep yourself busy, go out with friends, go see a movie, go for dinner with family, and make sure you don't date again soon. Trying to get him jealous will make it clear you're not over him, and dating too soon doesn't allow healing time. Don't be afraid to cry either. But tell yourself it's once, and that you don't need to cry again after that.

X Dani

He's not worth your time. He took advantage of you and of your naivety. Your 15 he's 3 years older he had some power over you. I'm sorry to say this but you should just forget about the bastard.

Darling :)
All I can say is. Have you ever thought why all this happened? Maybe God brought him into your life because, God wanted you to learn something from your experience :)

Maybe you broke up because God has someone better instored for you :)

I'm going through the same thing right now :) But I know I can let go and move on because of god's amazing love for me :) You can do it! Nothing's imposible! :) You can always seek help from god :)

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Maybe you broke up because God has someone better instored for you You can always seek help from god
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You are very correct, in life often we have pain and suffering for unknown reasons. Often it will help us learn lessons before we get into things too far.

But you keep living, you date others and move on with your life. Use this as a lesson to keep things in perspective.

So I have this older guy who I have some problems about, all the info is on my head, someone please help, the link is attached, I really need advice >.<


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I think your boyfriend is a rebound, after being hurt by an older guy, and you have not healed sufficiently from this. This latching on to his best friend is but the grass seeming greener to a still broken heart, as is the thinking that its love in the first place.

Your fragile emotions has really gotten to your whole thinking and the reason you are in this situation is you have MANY feelings at once, and have to sort them out. You are unsure of what your boyfriends reaction will be, and I can assure you that as friends, best friends, you should not think that romance is going to happen. That may well lose a friend you need, and can relate to, cause a big rift between you and your girl, and put you in the position of having NO support.

This is something you talk over with your boyfriend, and decide to stay or go, without confessing feelings for his friend. You are right, that may blow up in your face. Its would be a disaster. Settle the relationship first, with your boyfriend, and no matter what happens, STAY WITHIN THE BOUNDARIES OF GOOD BEHAVIOR, until you have dealt with your hurt from the older fellow. That means respecting the feelings of others, as you deal with your own feelings.

You need as much support from friends and family as you can get, so don't run the ones you care about, and who care about YOU away.

Does the current boyfriend know that you were hurt badly? Maybe he needs to know, so he may better be able to support you, and understand you. Some honesty on your part may help as you are being deceptive to him now due to your own neediness, and hurts. That's what the REAL dilemma you face, is what to do about the current guy, not some ifs, ands, or maybes with your friends.

Focus on him, and see if a few facts makes a difference to his actions as he won't know what you need without you telling him. No matter what you do, it will get better, if you don't get to carried away by those strong feelings of attraction to your guy friend, or being jealous of your girl friend, as you cannot control how they will react, but you darn better control how you act.

Just give it some thought, and a lot of it. The heart you save may be YOUR OWN! And don't forget, giving your heart to this older guy by following your feelings is what got you hurt before.