livingmend
Nov 7, 2011, 12:19 PM
About 3 weeks ago on my boyfriends birthday, I noticed when he had opened up his phone a picture of a woman blowing a kiss on his phone. You could tell that it was some he knew. The screen was black originally and when he went to check the weather updates the picture was there, to me indicating that he had been looking at the picture earlier. I didn't say anything because it was his birthday and I figured a number of his Facebook friends probably wanted to wish him well.
Last night my boyfriend asked me to look at some pictures on Facebook which he had found of us, as a scrolled through the pictures I accidentally closed out the screen, upon doing so I notice a picture of a women on his desk top. When I asked him who she was he immediately began to stutter, saying it was a friend that he knew four years ago. He said she was divorced and that she had two kids and how they met up for lunch ever now and again. I asked when was the last time he saw her and her said a few years ago. I then went into the other room, he followed, he told me that he had not been a relationship her, as I continued to ask questions (he was very nervous)it came out that this was indeed the woman he dated before me. My boyfriend quickly turned the discovery around on me saying that I was insecure. He told me that he has pictures of all his ex girlfriends on his phone. He also went on to say that he was not going to get rid of them.
In the beginning of our relationship this woman was all my boyfriend could talk about. He would talk about her for hours on end. He even told me that she was his soul mate and that they were just alike. I told him maybe he should go look for her. He said no he could not trust her. She was married at the time they dated and she apparently saw other men as well, which was the reason their relationship ended.
I am very upset about this whole thing because I feel that I can not trust him. He is on his computer and phone from morning to night and I don't know what he's doing. I'm not on Facebook of my own choice and this has put a lot of doubts in my mind. My boyfriend says that he loves me but his actions for me don't back that claim up. My boyfriend always comments to me how this or that woman is hot. When I tell him that I don't appreciate his comments he tells me that it's my problem because I'm insecure. I don't feel I can trust him. Am I being overly sensitive?
Last night my boyfriend asked me to look at some pictures on Facebook which he had found of us, as a scrolled through the pictures I accidentally closed out the screen, upon doing so I notice a picture of a women on his desk top. When I asked him who she was he immediately began to stutter, saying it was a friend that he knew four years ago. He said she was divorced and that she had two kids and how they met up for lunch ever now and again. I asked when was the last time he saw her and her said a few years ago. I then went into the other room, he followed, he told me that he had not been a relationship her, as I continued to ask questions (he was very nervous)it came out that this was indeed the woman he dated before me. My boyfriend quickly turned the discovery around on me saying that I was insecure. He told me that he has pictures of all his ex girlfriends on his phone. He also went on to say that he was not going to get rid of them.
In the beginning of our relationship this woman was all my boyfriend could talk about. He would talk about her for hours on end. He even told me that she was his soul mate and that they were just alike. I told him maybe he should go look for her. He said no he could not trust her. She was married at the time they dated and she apparently saw other men as well, which was the reason their relationship ended.
I am very upset about this whole thing because I feel that I can not trust him. He is on his computer and phone from morning to night and I don't know what he's doing. I'm not on Facebook of my own choice and this has put a lot of doubts in my mind. My boyfriend says that he loves me but his actions for me don't back that claim up. My boyfriend always comments to me how this or that woman is hot. When I tell him that I don't appreciate his comments he tells me that it's my problem because I'm insecure. I don't feel I can trust him. Am I being overly sensitive?