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livingmend
Nov 7, 2011, 12:19 PM
About 3 weeks ago on my boyfriends birthday, I noticed when he had opened up his phone a picture of a woman blowing a kiss on his phone. You could tell that it was some he knew. The screen was black originally and when he went to check the weather updates the picture was there, to me indicating that he had been looking at the picture earlier. I didn't say anything because it was his birthday and I figured a number of his Facebook friends probably wanted to wish him well.

Last night my boyfriend asked me to look at some pictures on Facebook which he had found of us, as a scrolled through the pictures I accidentally closed out the screen, upon doing so I notice a picture of a women on his desk top. When I asked him who she was he immediately began to stutter, saying it was a friend that he knew four years ago. He said she was divorced and that she had two kids and how they met up for lunch ever now and again. I asked when was the last time he saw her and her said a few years ago. I then went into the other room, he followed, he told me that he had not been a relationship her, as I continued to ask questions (he was very nervous)it came out that this was indeed the woman he dated before me. My boyfriend quickly turned the discovery around on me saying that I was insecure. He told me that he has pictures of all his ex girlfriends on his phone. He also went on to say that he was not going to get rid of them.

In the beginning of our relationship this woman was all my boyfriend could talk about. He would talk about her for hours on end. He even told me that she was his soul mate and that they were just alike. I told him maybe he should go look for her. He said no he could not trust her. She was married at the time they dated and she apparently saw other men as well, which was the reason their relationship ended.

I am very upset about this whole thing because I feel that I can not trust him. He is on his computer and phone from morning to night and I don't know what he's doing. I'm not on Facebook of my own choice and this has put a lot of doubts in my mind. My boyfriend says that he loves me but his actions for me don't back that claim up. My boyfriend always comments to me how this or that woman is hot. When I tell him that I don't appreciate his comments he tells me that it's my problem because I'm insecure. I don't feel I can trust him. Am I being overly sensitive?

coolguy005
Nov 8, 2011, 12:44 AM
Nice problem... common problem.. first thing is lady that you have to decide that can he be trusted or not... most of the girls go on complainig to the whole world but still stick up with the same guy.You just have to be clear with him on this .Other thing is that probably the guy finds few things in other girls which he might find attractive... he want to say you that if you could add that to your personality he would find you more attractive.. you can do this for him... make sure for every one thing he says you got to tell him something or other in some other guy whatever you feel is deficit in him... he will know how you feel when you are compared... rem guys want variety... learn some new ways of charming him.. of course only if you decide not to break up with him... I don't think you are insecure .you have all the ryts to know .

talaniman
Nov 8, 2011, 03:09 PM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/recently-attended-birthday-dinner-boyfriend-42-woman-work-581731.html

You are still with this fellow? Since you cannot resolve things through honest communications, you really should have been gone already.

Tell me why you are still there, and please don't use love as an excuse. I don't think you over reacted, but I do think you are stuck in denial.

mmresd
Nov 8, 2011, 06:12 PM
I don't think you are over reacting, I think this guy is still hanged over his previous relationship. End this NOW, before anything else happens, and move on. You are stuck with a guy that doesn't want to be with you and is only with you because it is comfortable.

vanheart
Nov 9, 2011, 02:04 AM
Well, at least now you know.
Came clean.
Now what? Is this your guy?

"My boyfriend says that he loves me but his actions for me don't back that claim up"
Use that thought forever.

It'll come in handy later.