Me and my boyfriend are planing on having sex soon. Well what I mean is we are both virgins but we have came really close before. I know HOW it works but he wants me to do most of the work, and what I'm really asking is how do girls make love to a guy?

RayTay, may I ask how old you are? Our answers will vary according to your age.

I have found in another thread you posted that you are 14, so I have moved your question from the Adult Sexuality board (which is for adults 18 and above) to the Teen board where it is more appropriate.

At your age making love should not be an option. Pregnancy can and does happen no matter what protection you use.

Are you prepared for the possibility of being a singe teen mother?

MEN make love to WOMEN. BOYS fool around with GIRLS (and vice versa).

NO ONE Should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are physically, emotionally and financially prepared to have a child. You do not qualify in any of those three.

Sex is not a recreational sport. It's something that should only be shared between people with a long term committed relationship. At 14 you have hardly had time to form such a relationship.

15

14 or 15 you are not ready for the adult consequences of such an adult decision.

I am 14

So why did you say 15 in response #5? Either way the answer still stands. You are too young.

I am 14, I was on my iPod, and it is cracked so it doesn't always put what I want it to. I have really been thinking about this. And I am afraid. And all of my friends have lost there vicinities, and I want to know what it is like. They always say how much fun it is.

Lost their vicinities?

Do you mean virginities?

If so, yes, you're too young both emotionally and physically. You do not have the means to support and raise a child and that's a consequence of sex.

Like I said I'm on my iPod. But yes I mean virginities... It is the whole I want to and I don't care thing I am going through right now I think. I really want to.

If you already know you're going to have sex with this boy, why are you even asking for opinions.

Scott put it best - girl children have sex with boy children. Female adults have sex with male adults. It's as simple as that.

No one here is going to give instructions to a 14 year old concerning how to be a "good" sexual partner.

Raytay, once you lose your virginity, it's never coming back. I wish someone would have been there for me when I started experimenting with boys. I wish I could have saved my virginity for someone a little more special than who I chose to give mine up to.

Aside from the scare of STD's and pregnancy, how would you feel if your parents found out? I know girls your age who are engaging in sex, only to have their names run through the mud by other girls and their boyfriends who have decided that they weren't really in love with them after 3 months of dating. Having sex is serious thing. You need to think long and hard about this. Once you go there, you can never go back. And you should be scared. It means you're not ready.

Raytay, once you lose your virginity, it's never coming back. I wish someone would have beent here forme when I started experimenting with boys. I wish I could have saved my virginity for someone a little more special than who I chose to give mine up to.
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Wow - excellent. A voice of experience is always worth 10 times what anyone else says.

Great response.

Thank you, it I=has been something I'm always curious about but I guess everyone is in away.. But I will save it for someone special, I think I know who that is.

But i will save it for someone special, i think i know who that is.

At 14 it is unlikely that you DO know who that is. You may think you do, but I can guarantee you don't.

Either way, I am just glad you are reconsidering it. It's kind of a big deal!

I'm glad you are reconsidering too. Do you know what I do for a living? I deliver babies. I had a girl today who was just 16 years old. She already has herpes (that is a permanent STD, it will NEVER go away). She also ended up having a C-Section (cutting her belly to get the baby out).

Are you prepared for those consequences?

Your friends may say it's fun and that it's the bees knees, but there are consequences to those actions that they haven't been told about. At least you are smart enough to ask before you jump in head first.

Thank you!! You guys are really helpful... I think I will always be nervus but I'm not going to do it anytime soon. And I was thinking about it and my mom has always told me AFTER you have an education,and MONEY, then you can have a baby but until then I better be an angle. Lol which I'm not because I do other stuff just haven't went "all the way" yet.

Yes, an education is VERY important. Do you know the statistics of unwed mothers? You do realize that the guy RARELY sticks around right? It's next to impossible to raise a child and go to school. Most girls end up on welfare and have tons of Baby Momma Drama.

You don't want that. You are too smart for that!

:) Thank you agaian. I really do think I can connect with you and it is easy to understand what you mean.

:) Thank you agaian. I really do think i can connect with you and it is easy to understand what you mean.

You are very welcome! I have a daughter who just turned 18, so it's easy for me to talk to girls like you.

If you have any other questions please feel free to ask. You might want to check out the other questions in the Teens section and see if you can help out answering! :D

Raytay, I'm a single mom. My daughter is 4. I got pregnant when I was 22 with the guy I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with. Granted he was a total jerk, it took a total of 2 months after my daughter was born for him to take off. And in those 2 months he didn't sacrifice much. He slept until noon, never got up through the night with the baby, went to work, and then went to the bar after work. Would stumble in at 2-3am and expect me to get up and entertain him. I should have filed for child support earlier, but I am now just doing it. They told me it could take anywhere from 3 - 18 months for the claim to go through. I struggle everyday to keep my head above water. After mortgage, electric bill, gas and insurance for the car and insurance for the house, my daughter's daycare fee's, making sure she has a warm jacket, boots, hat and mittens, plus clothes that fit her for all seasons, it's a struggle everyday to put food on the table for us. I didn't finish high school, so had to go back and get my diploma as an adult while working.I would be so tired, but had to get up early every morning with the baby, go to school and then go to work, just to make sure she was fed and kept in diapers. I have a great job now, but I never realized how hard and expensive it was going to be to raise a child on my own. 4 years later and I am still struggling every day.

I'm past the being upset at not being able to go out with my friends, now a days when Friday rolls around, I am more than happy to sit at home and watch movies with my daughter. Ray, it was a huge sacrifice, and I am still sacrificing things every day. I love my daughter, I can't imagine my life with out her, but man, I wish I would have thought about things like you are now when I was your age.

I'm so glad to hear you are thinking about this, that shows great levels of maturity. Scott and Judy aren't trying to be mean, they really do care what happens to you. Hard to believe since they've never met you right? But we really are like a huge online family here. Hope to see you around :)

Bella

If you really had to post something like this you are not ready. It is always a girls desire for the first time be magical however it seldom is possible. If it is your desire take your time and just enjoy spending time together. Sex is more than just getting the job done. That would be a serious let down. Spend time exploring each other first. And you should talk to your parents about this stuff not post here. Be honest with them. Good luck and be safe