How can I tell my parents about that Im gay and Im afraid because Im still young? How can I pretend to be straight while Im not Good people help Im confused...

How young? In general you tell your parents that you are gay the same way you'd tell them anything else.

Where are you? What country?

Its really not about how, its when. When you feel comfortable telling them and coming out is what counts. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Myself, I haven't come out yet and I'm 22. I just don't feel comfortable. But you should never hold back saying anything. Because tomorrow, you or your parents may not be here. A year and two months ago, my father was diagnosed with cancer. Ever since then, I have been getting closer to coming out. Luckily he is cancer free. Its when you feel comfortable telling them, not how. And I believe the younger, the better to an extent. Like 14-18 is a good time. Any younger and your parents might not take you seriously.

South Africa. Thankx guys but I think the rigth decision is not to tell them at all because my mom said if she find out that one of her children is gay she will kick him out and that made me to be more afraid to comeout.

NASCA511GUY
Do you think of telling them that you are gay?

How young are you xolainne? Do you think your mother would really go to that extreme or is she just sharing her lack of understanding regarding sexuality?

Sure, she may be surprised, even embarrassed, and certainly concerned, but most families are supportive after they are able to accept it and understand it better.

It is interesting how many people have preconceived ideas about the subject until they actually know someone, especially when they find it is a family member. Many times, points of view get turned around.

You can't hide who you are. It is not worth living in secret, and sooner or later, in order for you to live a fulfilling life that makes you happy, they will have to know.

You could write it in a letter if you can't say it face to face. If you feel it needs to be known, so that you can be happy, then tell them. If you feel it just isn't the right time for you, then wait. Sooner or later that time will come.

DoulaLC
Thank I will use that idea to tell them thank you so much

You should also tell them that you have been raped by your uncle. https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/emotional-wellbeing/rapped-uncle-what-can-do-610131.html#post2939961

What if they will say I was lying because Im gay?

You can't live your life on "what ifs." If you don't have a reputation as a person who lies, why wouldn't they believe you?

Telling the parents is always difficult and scary. I have a few recommendations. 1st don't tell them during a holiday or family event. Tell them in private in a place they are comfortable. I've heard so many coming out stories where the person said "I'm GAY!" at thanksgiving or Christmas and it ruined the holiday for everyone. Coming out is a very mature thing to do and I give you a hug for doing it. But speaking of maturity, in this your parents may not take it well. So hope for the best and plan for the worst. Expect they will be yelling and crying. This is normal. This reaction is basically boils down to them not getting what they expect. (Grand kids, you getting married etc).. So let them have their grief. They will have questions as well. Like "How did this happen" or "What did we do wrong?" Answer honestly and sincerely. Now some won't react this way by the way.. This is the "Worst situation advice ..lol). Some parents will threaten to cut you off etc or evict you if your living with them. (Have a plan for this). You had tantrums growing up and they had to deal with them. Now it's their turn to have tantrums. Let them. They may try to get you to go to one of those "Pray the gay Away" type places.. don't let them. There is nothing wrong with you. Now at the point where everyone is cried out, let them know you love them and will give them a few days to absorb this and if they have any questions then you will answer them after a couple of days. ( this will give you a chance to emotionally recharge and them as well. Plus they may come up with more questions). Give them about a year to come to grips. If they don't at a year mark then you have to make a tough decision. If you're an adult this is the only thing you can really withhold from them. Is yourself. At a year mark if they haven't come to grips then tell them until they accept you and your life that you won't be seeing them, talking to them at all. And then follow through, Your parents love you and will come around but some parents take years. And if you cut off contact they will eventually come to grips and realize having their gay son/daughter in their life is better than no son/daughter at all.

Good Luck and I hope all goes well. I hope this helps.