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colleenlawrynn
Nov 3, 2011, 07:47 PM
He was my absolute best friend. I knew him for around 5 months and the whole time I liked him but I never tried anything or even told my friends. Then he told me he liked me and we were pretty much "together" for another 4 months. I didn't love him, but I had such strong feelings for him. It's been almost 8 months and I'm still very upset about it. I find myself thinking about him way too much and I feel like I can't find another guy. Please help :( I could really use it.

blueiris982551
Nov 4, 2011, 07:42 AM
Have you not spoken in 8 months? I'm confused with the timeline here. If you have not had contact in 8 months and you're still pining away you should probably talk to someone. It's OK to think about someone but why are you still grieving? You'll find another guy that you like even more I promise. It might just take time. If you've gotten over someone before you'll get over this one too. Hang in there. I speak from first hand experience that it rarely works when you get back with an ex. The same problems resurface and you're back to square one.

vanheart
Nov 5, 2011, 12:18 AM
Exs are exs.

No matter how long, or what your expectations were.

You've spent long enough without him. (more than with him)
How much longer do you want to torture yourself?

All this is up to you. He's gone.

"I feel like I can't find another guy"
Not only is that silly, but you don't "need" a guy.
Just a reality check.

talaniman
Nov 5, 2011, 10:45 PM
How old are you both, and what happened?

colleenlawrynn
Nov 6, 2011, 09:53 PM
Alrighty, to clear up some confusion, we were both 16 at the time, still 16. I know I sound like one of those pathetic high schoolers and you're thinking, oh you're not immature enough for dating, there's no point to it, you're overreacting, blah blah. But every highschooler goes through a situation like this and when it comes down to it, it doesn't really matter.

I'll just set up the timeline. We met earlySeptember 2010. Started "dating" in early February 2011. Stopped talking to me out of the blue in mid-April 2011. So it's been almost 7 months since we haven't talked. And I know there will be more. I just don't know what to do or how to get over him because as much as I know I don't want it to be over, I know it is so I haven't tried talking to him either.

vanheart
Nov 6, 2011, 10:15 PM
Don't think those things.
Were all here to help. The more we know, the more we can help.

Whether its me or someone else. All of us combined? Or none of us.

I know you're angry. This blows.
But, honestly,.

"it's been almost 7 months since we haven't talked"

I would stop hanging on to this.
Doesn't matter what age. This isn't about that.

"I don't want it to be over"
I hear you. Been there. That's your real problem.

What do you want? This isn't happening.
Read the stickies on NC. May shed some light.

Your smart.