I've been dating my boyfriend now for four and a half years. In the beginning we didn't really have sex, but we had oral and hand stuff a lot. We were both virgins when we did have sex, and he wanted me all the time, and I was not objecting. Now, I want sex all of the time, but he rarely seems to want it. I have stopped telling him about how I want him, because he simply doesn't reciprocate anymore. I don't get oral anymore, and so I give it far less, and he hardly seems to mind. I have asked him about it, and he says he does want me, that he's just tired. When we are together, he generally will get more orgasms and drop dead or start doing something else the second I come. He talks about getting married someday, but I see a bleak future in which I don't get enough. I do own several vibrators, and probably use them 5-10 times during the week and maybe once with him. He can be so good at satisfying me, he recently nailed down how to make me squirt repeatedly, but he wants it so infrequently, so I get it infrequently. Also, he almost always waits until I've fallen asleep to have sex with me, rejecting my conscious attempts to arouse him. I do not like being the one to chase it and being rejected so much. I have talked to him, but he's stressed or tired. I don't know what to do, I feel ready to burst.

How old are each of you?

I am 22 and he is 21.