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rtorrg
Nov 2, 2011, 03:06 PM
I am in love with my friend of a few years. We flirt and talk to each other a lot. When we first met I was in a relationship of a couple of years. I started to develop an emotional affair with him. Many words were not exchanged, but I knew he liked me, and I liked him back.

Me and my boyfriend broke up, and I finally thought things would work between us, but they didn't. I was still hung up on my ex, and he knew it, so he turned away from me. I went back to my ex, but I still have crazy feelings for him, and can't help to wonder what if. I didn't have the courage to leave my relationship for the hopes of something new, and now he is recently married and I'm engaged.

But I still feel it, and I still can't help to wonder what if? Not that I would ever break up a marriage, or my engagement over it. But I wish we could've just talked about what happened, and I could tell him how I truly felt? Is it too late for some closure?

mmresd
Nov 2, 2011, 03:43 PM
Closure is when you get over someone, there is nothing to talk about, he is married and off limits to you, you need to respect him and most importantly the wife. You are engaged, as far as your relationship goes, you can either choose to remain in your relationship committed and faithful, or ended and look for someone else.

Homegirl 50
Nov 2, 2011, 05:35 PM
This guy is married leave him alone. It is way too late for that ship.
You need to decide if you want to get married or not. Does your fiancé know you are harboring these feelings?

talaniman
Nov 3, 2011, 08:07 PM
Its sad, but accepting what has happened the way it has happened is closure. Yes its to late to confess feelings, that's nothing but opening a can of worms.

I wish
Nov 3, 2011, 08:51 PM
Are you happy with your current relationship? Why did you break up the first time? Are you sure you're not settling because you feel that you can't find anyone else? I just hope that you're sure of this engagement, because you don't want to end in a divorce.

Seems like you still have a lot of unanswered questions. Your past crush is already married and moved on. But the question is, are you wondering what if with this particular crush or someone else who's better. Because it sounds to me that if it wasn't this past crush, another guy might be able to sweep you away. It doesn't seem like you're very committed to your current relationship.

I would take a long look in the mirror to figure out what exactly you want before going ahead with this marriage.