View Full Version : Father is violating the court ordered parenting plan... what can I do?
angeliqueover
Nov 2, 2011, 09:22 AM
We have joint custody and he has primary physical custody of our 2 daughters. I also have a son from another marriage and the court papers specifically state the girls are to have reasonable contact with their brother. Their brother has talked to them once in two years. He tries to call and the father will not let him talk to them, but does it such away like to say their busy or he will have them call back and never does. What can I do?
twinkiedooter
Nov 2, 2011, 09:24 AM
Have him try to call the sisters when the father is not around. He has not tried very hard apparently to speak to them.
angeliqueover
Nov 2, 2011, 10:00 AM
The father is very controlling. These girls are 13 and 15, and he will not let them have cell phones or a Facebook, etc. You have to call through his cell phone or the step mothers cell phone cell phone. I also have very limited contact with my daughters when they are with their father. He makes it more of a hassle to pick up the phone and call me to the girls, so I just wait for my weekends... I am thinking this is contempt of court??
StephAnderson
Nov 2, 2011, 10:04 AM
Then he is not sticking to his side of things. Query this with a lawyer and find out what you are able to do about it. If your son is a child, he shouldn't have to fight to talk to his sisters, this should be a given.
Speak with a lawyer, or mediator, or even the father if things are amicable about setting up some planned outings for the three children, or setting a time/day every week for a phone call.
Planning is key, setting a schedule - because if this schedule is broken, you can then turn round and say ''Well, on this, this and this date, you failed to adhere to the plan.' rather than, 'You never let them talk.'
Steph
JudyKayTee
Nov 2, 2011, 10:07 AM
Then he is not sticking to his side of things. Query this with a lawyer and find out what you are able to do about it. If your son is a child, he shouldn't have to fight to talk to his sisters, this should be a given.
Speak with a lawyer, or mediator, or even the father if things are amicable about setting up some planned outings for the three children, or setting a time/day every week for a phone call.
Planning is key, setting a schedule - because if this schedule is broken, you can then turn round and say ''Well, on this, this and this date, you failed to adhere to the plan.' rather than, 'You never let them talk.'
Steph
The custodial parent sets the schedule. The non-custodial parent does not. I see nothing about contact other than by telephone.
If the Court Orders states the brother is to have contact with the sisters and this is not happening keep a diary - use that to go to Court and PROVE the father is impeding investigation.
The custodial parent makes the decisions concerning cell phones and the like. If the custodial parent's "rules" make it impossible for the non-custodial parent to act as ordered by the Court, that is also contempt.
Keep a diary.
cdad
Nov 2, 2011, 02:07 PM
How old is the brother? Is he talking with them when they are with you on the weekends or are they distant ?