I've been with my boyfriend for 9 years. We had a split up for around 3 months because he cheated on me. We recently got back together and he's been so much nicer than before and more attentive. However, we haven't really had sex because he hasn't gone for an STD check yet (after being with that other woman). I did, however, find out that he had spent £250 on a doll and clothes etc which he hides (but I found).
The thing is - this doll is small, as in 3 feet tall. It's more like a child sized doll and I think he's simulating sex with it... I don't know what to do. Is this the kind of thing I should report to the police? I feel so sick just thinking about it.

Tricky situation. Have you asked him about it?

X Dani

I think you have a couple of issues going on.

You don't seem to trust him (for good reason) and it has you checking up on him. Or did you find out about the doll by accident? Even if you found the receipt by accident, it appears you went looking for the doll itself. Why?

Is this a child's play toy type doll or a sex aid (blow-up) type doll? What type of clothing did he get for the doll?

Other than size is there anything else 'child-like' about the doll? Some sex aids marketed as life size come closer to 'little person' (dwarf) size than 'normal' adult size.

You need to ask him about it (even if it means admitting to checking up on him.)

The problem with going to the police is that you don't have anything they do anything about. It's a doll and you 'think' he might be doing something sexual with it. Unless he has child porn or there are any children involved, there isn't much the police can do. Do you have children who you think might be 'at risk'?

A big question for you to ask yourself: Are you looking for evidence/proof of wrong doing to give yourself a way out of the relationship?

Simulated sex with a doll is not illegal.

I did check up on him (and I know that's wrong and an issue in itself). I'm almost certain he's bought a fake vagina to put onto this thing and he's bought catsuits and ears and panties for the doll.

There are no children around that may be at risk (thank gawd).

I'm just very confused and a little disgusted.

I would ask him - well, I always say be prepared to find what you might find if you snoop. Sounds like in your case snooping was a good thing. I'm shuddering as we speak. I wouldn't assume that his interest in the doll means he's interested in children. At least I would HOPE so!

If it bothers you, talk to him about it. But no it is not illigal. It may be creepy to you. But that's an opinion not a fact.

But like I said, if ANYTHING bothers you, it is something you both need to talk about.

If you can't trust him, and can't talk to him about this... why are you still in a relationship with him?

Just leave already.