View Full Version : Is time really the healer?
poojapraki
Oct 29, 2011, 09:47 PM
I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 28 months now but lately we've been having a lot of fights! I've hurt him like crazy for about a year because he had gotten close to another girl when we were very much in a relationship! He would always be there for me though.. He's even ask for forgiveness.. But the rimes I'd been really upset.. I blew my top and have treated him damn badly! Today he's reached his peak and is fine with anything.. As in he's OK with being mine or is OK by a break up.. I'm so confused.. I love him so much! I've realized my faults.. I just want him to give me one chance to show him what I actually am! He says he still loves me and still cares for me! Will he ever forgive me? Anything I say or do makes no difference to him now! He gets really annoyed! I really want him back! Could anybody please help? Thank you so much!
DaniCalifornia
Oct 30, 2011, 03:16 AM
Ask him exactly what he wants, and go from there. How 'close' did he get with this other girl? Or was it you being paranoid he simply has friends who are girls? If he tells you he wants to work it out, you need to ease off getting at his throat. If he wants it to end, you'll have to accept it hun.
X Dani
pandead
Oct 30, 2011, 02:13 PM
You need to work on your own issues first, then on your relationship with him. You have to accept a break-up if it came to that point, but you absolutely need to communicate and show him you are aware of your mistakes and you will do whatever is necessary to fix things between you two.
Time doesn't heal anything if you do nothing about it.
Good luck!
Fr_Chuck
Oct 30, 2011, 03:58 PM
He hurts you, you hurt him, not sure what type of relationship you have had and to be honest is it really worth saving ?
But you and he have no or little communication and really need to talk, honest and open, perhaps with counseling.