I dated this girl for 2 years, all of my senior year of high school and my freshman year of college. I am now a sophomore in college and my ex is a freshman and we are at the same college. 2 weeks ago everything seemed like it was fine until we started fighting a ton. We broke up 2 days ago and basically she said that she was confused and didn't know what she wanted. She said she needs time to figure out what she wants. She says since I was her first of many things, she doesn't know anything outside of that. She insisted on she still loves me and will always love me.

She was saying though that when she hung out with me, she felt like she was really missing out on other stuff with her new friends and meeting new people. I feel like I'm doing everything right but it still sucks. I am not contacting her by any means because I know this will only make this harder for me. I'm not the type of guy that goes out and hooks up with girls.

I really don't know where to go from here I just feel kind of lost. The hardest part for me is that she really was my best friend. It was really nice having someone just to talk to all the time, tell them the little things about your day, and having someone to say goodnight and I love you. At the moment, I want her back of course, but really our relationship was flawed in many ways. I gave 150% of my effort into it and it was never reciprocated.

I'm not saying I think she's going to come back to me, but if she did, I definitely have some ground rules now. Anyway I just need some direction at this point.

Welcome, you have come to the right place.

Read these stickies here (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/), and know that you have to rebuild, and regroup, after a proper healing, through friends and family and activities that you enjoy. We have all been down this road, and break ups suck. But we grow, learn, thrive, and survive. The stickies will show you how many of us have gotten through those rough times after we get dumped.

She has asked for space. The best thing you can do is give it and let her off. Chasing her will only drive her away. I've just lost my best friend too.

You don't have to go out and hook up with girls but you should definitely go out and have fun. Get to know the friends you have been neglecting for this person. If she's ever ready to come back she will but at least you will have established a closer group of friends for yourself.

Also get some hobbies. I'm learning the violin until my girlfriend is back Or gone from my mind.

You don't really with it, you just stop dealing with it. Keep up the no contact and give it time, time will make your feelings fade away, it takes a lot of time considering that you spent 2 years with this person. There is no rush pill or anything like that, you are just going to have to let the feelings die.