So I met my girlfriend at 22 weeks pregnant, she is white and has two biracial kids and is now 33 weeks pregnant. I am the first white guy she has been with in 5 years.. She prefers black men but is tired of being treated like ****.

She wants me in the delivery room? I want to but it's a very odd since it will be the first baby I ever see being born and it's not mine and it will clearly Not look like its mine since the biological father is black? I'm fricking confused and don't know what to do or how to act.. I would like to be there for her but damn, it's odd. She makes comments all the time about how ugly white babies and kids look. She has many issues about race. Rarely does she say anything good about white people even though she is white, and for that matter she rarely says anything good about me, and I'm trying my best to care for her two boys who are 2 and 4.

It's not easy and damn, each one of her two baby daddy's ran.. It doesn't seem as if the guy who is sticking around which is me is very appreciated. I feel used most of the time , but she is pregnant and has been having constant Braxton contractions. Shoot I don't know what to do. She did save my life so I feel I owe it to stick around and maybe she will be more appreciative of me.

Ok, wait... you've known her for 11 weeks and you're already taking care of her other kids, she's treating you poorly, and she also wants you in the delivery room? It all sounds like it's moving way too fast really.

Honestly, from what you wrote, it sounds like she is just using you. You talk about her saving your life so now you think you owe her... and I bet she knows you feel this way. I think she's simply taking advantage of you.

Me? I'd blow her off and be done with this mess. You've only got 11 weeks in and you're already questioning the relationship... where do you think it will go?

Good luck to you.

I do feel as if you are right.. I have been in 3 relationships each over 4 years.
The longest she has been in a serious relationship is 8 months.
She is bi-polar and has multiple personality disorder..
I basically destroyed my life in one year.. From oct 2010 till aug 1 2011 I was higher than a kite on legall bath salts.
I was hospitled twice at fairview adult mental health and at the veterans hospital mental health unit. I was awake for 9 days at least 7 times and awake for 5-6 days straight about 12 times. I lost my apartment and car got ****ed up on the inside. I was also homeless for 2months an lost almost all my belongings. I went 15,000 in debt and had 12 bank accounts opened up.. I am finally clean and drug free since I met this women and have started paying off my debt that I have no clue as to how it happen. I have not worked since march 9 2011.. I used to work 7 days a week and had two jobs and my 3rd job was well under the table, I don't plan on doing the under the table job anymore that life is crazy always looking over your back.. I also had a 2006 gsxr 1000 crochroket and well I ran from the 5.o popo like 6 times over the corse of march 2011 to July 2011 and wow I'm lucky to be alive because that bike was going 188 for at least 5 of the chases and I was gone to the world, I pray that no one for hurt..

My life has done a complete 360..
The only thing that was able to get me clean and stop dealing and running multiple lives, was basically 4 people in one, the women her 2 kids and the one on the way got me to stop my insane life..
I'm kind of crazy but have a heart the size of Texas. I don't look to hurt people and where others judge I try and find the good..
She is the first women who understands me and I'm able to respect as a girlfriend and we actually get along as friends..
She is very odd when it comes to showing affection but I'm trying to look at things and view emotion in a different way

So, let me see if I get this right...

You have been in a relationship with a woman who is a racist for 11 weeks and you are already trying to step up and be daddy to her kids, yet you are of the skin that she is discrimanatory towards? This relationship is going nowhere fast!

Time to move on, this woman is nothing but trouble. She has 3 kids by 3 different dads? Do you want to be the 4th? Where is yourself esteem man?

Time to tell this girl that you won't be her doormat any longer and that you are not responsible for these kids, then run for the hills and find a healthy relationship!

That's a rough story you tell and I'm sorry you had to go through that but... it's behind you now. You can't continue to have her treat you this way simply because you feel that you owe her.

I didn't even want to bring up the racism part that J9 did but really... it's there, it's happening.

I feel for you and I hope you can find the strength to move on and remain clean.

Man you are a great friend, which is what she needs right now, not a boyfriend. Don't let your gratitude make you over look the obvious, its not a healthy love, nor I doubt it ever will be given her issues. I say help her along and make sure you draw a bright line between love and being a friend, and DON'T cross that line for anything, or any reason.

If you can't then let her family help her through the tough times, especially when she does things in ways you cannot abide with. I think you have latched onto this flawed, troubled female, and have gotten carried away with being a nice person.

Nice guys get abused, good guys do what's needed, but don't get fooled into being what they are not. There are limits to being a good guy so find yours. Do the right thing, without being mistreated, even if you have to get out of her life.

Thanks for the input .
People change. She has been honest and put everything out in the open. I will see where my crazy path takes me.

This is too much commitment and way too fast. This is her issue, you are right, it would be weird even if it was a white baby because you are not the father, and barely know this woman. Get out of there now, it clearly seems like is using you, unless you like that, then you can stay.