Well first off, I was on this site a very very long time ago due to a crazy ex. I'd like to say that not only has this site knocked some sense into me, but it put me on the right path, and I found another great girl. Well, until she broke up with me...

The story:

I met this wonderful girl Wendy around 8 months ago. She came from California to live here in New England, and it's been great. We started dating around 6-7 months ago, and to say the least we were a complete match. We could do anything together and the best part was that we always talked things out, and were on the same level mentally all the time. Especially after my last disaster ex(Which is my other post) left her marks on me and gave me no hope for women.

Well to cut it short, we split up last Thursday. I didn't go all crazy or anything, I accepted her decision said that I respect what she wants and that I wish her the best. She goes on and on I love you so much, you were the best man I've ever had etc etc etc. Could we just stay friends? I simply say, No I'm sorry I can't be friends with someone that I'm in love with because it would hurt too much. So then she mentioned a break/dump me/or whatever and I had to go so we never finished talking. So I removed her from my Facebook, and deleted her number every time to talk to me has been severed.

Oh and in the phone call I was wrong. I caused the break because of my living situation at the time. My roommate was going nuts because when me and my ex had sex almost every other night it was too loud lol. But yea, so I pushed her away for a week and she took it the wrong way. So I moved out of that place and to my rents for the time being. Because we had plans to go get an apartment together, etc etc. etc. -- we actually picked one out and so forth.

Oh, she also was pregnant with my kid and she didn't want to keep it. It ended up being a miscarriage and she was happier knowing it happened the natural way. She's too young to be a mother, and I'm not ready to be a dad. It was a mutual decision, but I thought I'd just give all the right info for good advice.

So with all that said and done, I pushed her away like an idiot. So I called her that Friday and expressed my feelings to her, explaining why I had done it and that I wasn't being myself, that I was pushing away the one person who was always there for me. I haven't heard from her since Friday, and I don't know what to do. I don't want to push her away and chase her. All I did was send her flowers Tuesday with a simple apology -- not too wordy or mushy gushy.

I haven't heard anything back from her. She really meant a lot to me and it sucks. Oh yea, and her little sister is like in love with me and is messaging me saying she doesn't want Wendy to be with anyone else blah blah blah, and that she knows I'm the best Wendy has ever had. She even told me she said I was Wendy's best boyfriend she ever met. But I know that isn't Wendy talking.

So any tips? What can I do without pushing her away? Help -_-

Welcome back and thanks for the update on the ex. Let's see what we can do about the current problem.

About all you can do at this point is to give her time to decide if she wants to contact you. Do not put your life on hold waiting for her. Do what you need to do to heal and move forward. Even if you get back together, you both need healing time and letting the past go.

You really should break off contact with her little sister. It isn't helping you and who knows what sister is telling Wendy. It is also a round-a-bout way to keep contact with Wendy and to build up confusion which you don't need.

Have you worked through your feelings about the miscarriage? I know the decision had been made to terminate the pregnancy, but even so a miscarriage is extremely hard on a couple. Your pushing her away may have hit some very raw nerves that she may not have realized were hurting as much as they were. IF she comes back, you might consider couple's counseling.

Work on getting your life together. Take care of yourself. I hope everything works out for the best.

Leave her, and her sister alone for a while, and get yourself in a good place. Whether she comes back or not. You know the rules. If you don't remember, read your other post.

Yea your right, I will takecare of myself. I know what I did wrong and I did the manly thing and fessed up to it. I played all mycards right. The way I see it is the balls in her court! Imnotgoing to beg her or keep trying to talk. If she misses me te balls in her court! Pluss I just got battlefield 3 ^_^

If you feel your too young to have a father, then please exercise self control and wrap it before you tap it. Go no contact, this relationship is over, and let her feel the decisions she made with you. You will find someone better, as you can see, you were already able to do it once.

May be you should try talking to her once again, buy her time, tell her how much she means to you. You must be knowing how much she must have been hurt, so, I would suggest another try. Oh, also, tell her that you are waiting for her reply, and go no contacts after that, if required

Well she finally called me today, after everything is said and done. She understood why I had been acting distant, and she respects it. But she called me to tell me that she is dating another man. It turns out last week I was supposed to go with her to a bruins game, and I didn't have the time to do it because it was so last second. So she went with her Boss which she brought her long term boyfriend and another kid named dave(since I couldn't attend). She said she made it very clear that she had a boyfriend, and I trusted her so I wouldn't be the jealous type etc etc. So needless to say, we split up last Thursday and she called me to tell me that she just sort of started dating this Dave character and that she has moved on. Its not even been a week and she already moved on? That part hurt, but on the phone call when she had called me I was all cheery and happy to hear from her. Even when she said that she had moved on and started dating Dave, I didn't fight it at all. I told her that I was happy for her and that I want the best for her. I said Im sure Dave is a really nice guy, and I hope you two find happiness together. Than she said I thought you would be upset, and than I go no Im not. This just shows me how much you really "loved" me Wendy, and than she got heated and said she loved me so much and if I hadn't of pushed her away I wouldn't be in this situation. But than I calmly say, Look its life there is nothing I can do to change this I respect your choice but when people split or take a break people usually work things out. I understand that I pushed you away but under a week you have a new man? Than she goes I met his family and everything already and he's so nice. If this isn't a rebound I don't know what to say... But I maintained my composure and I respected her decision and wished her the best of luck in a happy voie the WHOLE phone call. I think she was expecting a rise out of me, but there is no point what's done is done. Question is, since this is a rebound I should never look back right? She was a really good girlfriend up until these past weeks, Im not going to chase her or stalk her or anything. I just removed her sister as a friend on Facebook and made all my information private. I untagged mself from all of her photos of us too. Oh and I don't know if this plays any part but she sounded like **** the whole phonecall. ADVICE?! 1

That's a twist of events! If I were you, I would have taken out my anger over the phone, don't know how you maintained your composure. It is her loss anyway, and she will understand your value someday. Too bad, you won't be there for her then. Anyway, continue with your no contacts, no matter what. Good luck.

Don't be to mad. The next time they ask for a break, not only will you give it to them, but you will go about doing your own thing, and enjoying the life that you have built for yourself.

As much as it sucks for now, it will be better later, you'll see.