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friskynicollete
Oct 27, 2011, 02:08 AM
My boyfriend and I have been together 3 years and a month. We have been living together for a little over a year. I'm 20 and he is 21 years of age. Of course web we first started having sec after made him wait about 4 months or so we had it a couple times a day. It dropped down to a couple times a week, which I was completely finer with. Then it started decreasing from there. It got to where a 2 months would go by and we hadn't done anything sexual. The only time we are ever sexual is if I pretty much force him. I'm so confused, he kisses me on the forehead and lips daily, always hold my hand and is calling me gorgeous. Always makes comments on how amazing my body is yet he doesn't want sex? I've talked to him, I've cried, I've threatened to leave. He always says he will change, that
His mother has a hormone problem and low libido and she takes medicine
and he thinks he does too. He's been
Saying that almost two years, yet has
Never went to the doctor to getchecked over it. I've ask him to tell me if I was bad in bed or if I was unattractive, he claims I'm phenomenal in bed and he always gets off quickly. Or wants to but I try to
Make him wait. I know he's not cheating, he works for my parents then comes straight home and usually doesn't go out. If I ever try to leave he begs me to stay, I don't understand. I've told him that I can't help but feel like I need to find sex else where of we don't start doing it some, he once told me I could have sex with one person just don't tell him? Later he said he took that comment back, but that he will try. Yet I could ask seven days a week and he'd have an excuse. I've tried oral randomly and he pulls away mad and walks off. I've tried toys which caught his interest only for a little while, but then gave him more reason to say "just go use your toys". It's not all about me just wanting to have sex, even if I don't want it I want to feel wanted. He's not depressed, stressed, etc... He told me to buy a sex machine.. He said before that he's too lazy for sex and it's too much work sometimes. He's out of shape, but not an excuse. What should I do?

Synnen
Oct 27, 2011, 05:46 AM
You should insist that he go to the doctor by X date to get this checked out, or you will be leaving.

Then STAND BY THAT.

He's not willing to change because you've given him absolutely no reason to.

sawsall02
Nov 3, 2011, 05:27 AM
I agree with Synnen, this guy needs A deadline. If he's not willing to go see his doctor, than he doesn't really care about you or the relationship.
If I had A woman like you, we would be do'in it ALL THE TIME! Give him this chance, but if he refuses or doesn't meet the deadline, PLENTY of guy's out there that want A girl with A hot bod.