So I've liked this guy for some time. I'm not sure if he likes me but I doubt it. I recently found out from him that he has a girlfriend who lives far away. Should I act like I'm upset the next time I see him and when he asks what's wrong just tell him " Well I thought you were pretty cute and then I was kind of upset when you told me you had a girlfriend and it made me feel like there was not a chance we could ever be more then friends" I haven't known him very long but I do like him. It took us a while to warm up to each other. Almost a month or so. Now I'm not looking forward to seeing him but it upset me to know he has a girlfriend far away

No playing games.

He let you know that he has a girlfriend.

You do not even hardly know each other.

Best thing you can do is leave it alone.

TwiRusher93,

Joe Canada is an expert in this matter and knows better, but I dare to opine that sometimes guys/boys tend to show up to the girls that they are sought-after, making them believe that they are not lonely, at least I have seen it, which for them is one of many tactics to garner the attention of the girls. They have it in their mind to make/create an image of themselves as a lady-killer or a sought-after guy, which too creates a temptation in girlish minds. Suppose, just imagine, if he did not have told you, you might have taken him a little lightly, as you might have imagined to win him somehow, and would have preferred other jobs/tasks like studies, but after you learnt that he is 'involved' your temptation got enhanced and intense. Is not it? This is the OTHER way to look at a simply looking clear-cut case of man-involved-with-someone-else.

Observe him and wait.

He had no idea how I felt about him but I want him to know

Well if you want him to know let him know. At the same time. If he feels the same way. You and his girlfriend will be the one that will be towing the line in a relationships status that might or might not be. I am just saying that you could always let him know how you feel but make sure that you do not get hurt in this. He does have a girlfriend and you need to respect that.

I knew this was too good to be true. I mean I thought us joking around was just flirting. But if his girlfriend is 800 miles away and lives there how long would that relationship last. Im not one to be a homewrecker because I know what that's like but I hope that if I talk to him and establish some type of friendship with him it will develop into something else but that's kind of wrong. I just need to find a happy medium with myself. Im afraid to see him the next time I see him. This is so frustrating. He's the first guy I've liked in three years. A year ago I got out of a bad relationship of three years. IM only 18.

What is the rush to get into another relationship then?

Your still very young at 18.

Never called you a home wrecker but lines should still not be crossed whether his girlfriend is long distance or not.

I just feel like he sent me mixed messages. We have started talking and flirting and I never told him I liked him and there's a lot of eye contact and he always looks like he wants me to say something. Im confused. Would I be wrong if I avoided him completely or acted different around him now?

Try reading this thread for insights: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/guidlines-what-do-do-if-person-like-already-relationship-463250.html

Thanks that kind of helped me reading it and I thought us joking around was flirting but I'm still a little confused. But I know the best thing for me is to just wait it out and I'm going to keep my feelings to myself. One of the girls that I know who was talking to him one night told me he was single and that was two weeks ago. I thought maybe he knows I like him and just wanted to let me know its best that I not wait around or he was just saying he had a girlfriend but really doesn't because he wants to make himself seem better then he actually is or because he wants to let me know I should just back off cause he's not interested

We have no idea what's going on in his mind. All you can do is control your own actions. Don't try to over-analyze his words and actions. Focus on what you want to do and stick with that.

Well I know one thing. I definitely don't want it to come to him cheating on her or anything with me. Because I'm not a man stealer and if he cheats on her then there's a chance he would cheat on me. And I don't want that. I feel lik eat this point waiting it out and getting to know him better is the best option even though his girlfriend is about a thousand miles away. Maybe I can be his shoulder to lean on if he needs one ad then he will realize I was there all along.

In that case, don't worry about their relationship, just focus on getting to know each other better. Who knows, maybe after you get to know him better, you will realize that he's not compatible with you. Or... he might break up naturally.

Either way, just focus on getting to know each other better and don't worry about the rest, especially over-analyzing every he says or does.