I usully go for the popular boys, I don't know why. At the moment I like a lifeguard at my leisure centre and he lifeguards my swimming class. This is the only time in the week I see him - once a week. The only problem is that I am quiet and shy and he is a popular guy who's friends with really pretty girls and his sister is also a popular girl in my class (he's 2 years older than me and left my school 2 years ago). I'm not unpopular but I'm not exactly popular either. I don't know whether to talk to him over Facebook (I wouldn't be able to talk to him face to face) or not. I'm scared of what will happen. Any advice? Thanks (: x

It is normal in high school for almost all the girls to "like" the boys who are popular, esp those in sports, The really sad thing is that normally they don't even notice most of the girls, or they believe they can have any girl they want because of their status.

What you have not said is what he is like, since you don't talk with him, since you don't do things other than be watched swimming you don't know if he is a jerk, you don't know if he is perhaps really gay, or if he likes only girls who are blondes, or only wants girls to date who are cheerleaders.

The trouble with not talking to someone is you never know them, and now you only know what he looks like, and all the rest is your dream world about him.

Star 15,

Welcome to this beautiful site, first!

I agree with much of what Fr_Chuck said, but you need not lose the heart. Guys have different opinions. I know many girls, like shy/intovert boys and many shy/introvert girls are liked/loved by all types of boys. There are no hard and fast rules in love, infatuation or temptation. It is often cited - beauty lies in beholder's eyes. Find a chance to be with him, break the silence/ice somehow. His reaction will give you (much of the clue to the) answer, you seek.

Popularity accounts for nothing in a mature relationship, so regardless of how popular you are, I see no reason for you to not talk to him! Go for it.

X Dani