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aquariius
Oct 24, 2011, 07:35 AM
Well, I have been with this guy for few weeks, and I guess he is the one that I am looking for. He is a really social person, and he is doing his own business while I am studying in college.

I know I should understand that he has a lot of girl friends outside especially being a business man, but I somehow got really jealous when he talks to other girls, or going out with them. I did talk to him about I dislike him going out with girls, in one to one manner, sometimes he goes out with the girl to talk about the business stuff, and sometime maybe just go out with a girl to keep in touch, but still I can't take it.

I found out that I get jealous easily, I don't know what to do it hurts inside.

Kahani Punjab
Oct 24, 2011, 08:14 AM
Acquriius,

Either accept it, or leave him. If he has a plenty of girls in his company, to enjoy, to deal with, to befriend. Depends who is on his priority list, depends upon your intimacy, your impact on him and you can judge it by his reaction. Do not be too possessive with him, as he may or may not anticipate what you want of him. I shall avoid giving generalizations about boys or such boys, as every person is unique, but be careful and cautious as at certain times, when guys have easy access to plenty/bevy of beauty/beauties, they tend to adopt 'use and throw' policy. Sometimes, they have a strong and passionate will to 'taste' one and all. There can be many interpretations of it, but to how to get rid of jealousy, I have no answer. Just adopting 'don't care' policy is the only effective and genuinely honest answer.

talaniman
Oct 24, 2011, 02:10 PM
You may think he is the one but I doubt he would say that about you, and since its only been a few weeks who can tell if this will last forever.

You are just dating, and getting to know each other and he dates others still. Why not, as he is not yours.

The best way to deal with YOUR jealousy, is not get carried away with those feelings and to THINK very seriously about what you say, and do when you have those feelings.

Best tell him you are the jealous type, but assure him you work hard on YOUR problem. Since you barely know each other, maybe you have been intimate already and feel attached to him, and are afraid he may like someone else more? No matter where your fear comes from, you better deal with it, and not let it scare him away.

mmresd
Oct 24, 2011, 06:15 PM
If it bothers you enough, then end the relationship. Otherwise, learn to deal with it. It is business, don't get in front of his success, you may come out losing. Is there a way that you can get involved? Maybe you can aid his business and will earn the seat at making business deals, then you both could go out together and maybe even work at something together when you are not at work. Don't be pushy, shoot the idea as farfetched and work your way in there if possible.