Ok, for the past 2 months my girlfriend has been on the away team for where we work helping to open a new facility. I was very understanding and wanted her to do it because it would open up opportunities for her back here to move up in the company. I was supposed to sign up for it too, but I didn't only because what they needed at the time I had just started learning. Now she got offered a position down there and I am completely behind her 100% to go for it, but she never really spoke to me about. She came back to visit about 2 weeks ago and just dropped the bombshell on me about it that week. I was pretty upset about it, because we had plans to get a new place and move out of the one we are in right now.

We ended up fighting about it over the time that she was here, but I know she wants me to come down with her and I want to. But last week, I called her after she got out of work on Thursday and talked to her about what was going on up here and how I was going to be able to come down and be with her, because I don't have the money to just pick up and move to a different state. Friday I called her after work several times and she never answered, sent her a text and she never responded. Saturday I called her again after she got out, but sent me to voice mail each time. I kind of got a little upset about it and blew up, didn't yell at her, but I called her constantly texted her non stop trying to get a hold of her. After all was said and done, I know I was in the wrong and called and left an apology on the phone and I've been apologizing on my Facebook page.

I haven't heard or talked to her since last Thursday and it really bothers me a lot, because I really love her and want to be with her. I would do anything for her and her daughter. But today I saw that she had finally posted something on face book, and I wanted to call her so bad after seeing it, but I didn't. I know she is coming back on the 28th of this month, and I need some advice. This is what she said on her page:

Haven't been on in a while, been busy working and getting **** done. Figured since my ****s been put out there on fb, il continue the trend so everyone can keep up. Yes, I am moving to Tennessee. Came down to open a new warehouse n LOVE it. For 14 yrs I've said if I had a chance to move back to the south, I was taking it. Everything happens for a reason, and I need to figure it out. I love *****. Everyone knows that. But I love me more. I can't explain the feeling I got the second I had to figure out the airports alone, layovers alone, brand new cities alone. Be the all knowing in an empty 1.1 million sq ft building and them depending on you to get **** done, and now having the highest scores company wide for learning. I did that. Having over 30 psolve trained and them being on point to break records. I did that. Know that I CAN be on my own in a city hundreds of miles from everything I know, from everyone I love. I don't need my mom n ****. ***** is a big girl now and no one can kill the feeling. I am moving to Tennessee to be my own person and get my **** together to have ***** and know that I did it on my own, some might not understand, to you, I'm sorry you don't get me then. Some of you are like yea get it ****! To you, I thank. I do miss everyone. I cry I miss **** n **** so much. But to conquer life without being dependent, amazing. I haven't text or called anyone in days, not because I'm ignoring people, but because I'm so fuggin tired I come home and go to bed. Yes I went dancing this weekend. And this weekend I'm going shooting and bowlin. Next weekend il be home to trick or treat w my baby girl. All the 'im being ignored' n other bull**** is, well, pissin me off. When I was home hardly anyone had anything to say about my day. Now all the sudden everyone's up my ***. I'm still the same person, just independent now and in the south. Sorry it took everyone else this long to see they actually enjoyed having me around once in a while. Well, time for work. Go ahead, blow up my page everyone. I can't wait to see the comments.

I don't know what to do, I promised to go trick or treating with them and I want to but I don't want to screw things up. I want to be with her. So please help me!

Well you could start by apologizing for being a boob who instead of love support and encouragement acted from insecurity, and fear at the lack of attention, and see if that doesn't soften her feelings to you.

Things have changed, and if you want a chance of continuing you make adjustments, and see what happens. Not add to what has to be a stressful time for her.

Maybe she accepts your apology, maybe she tells you go to hell, but you won't know by doing NOTHING.

I agree.

Hold your horses back.
You sound angry. Use that. I know the feeling.

The real thing is that you are in complete & utter control of your wants. Priorities.
Why do want this girl? Does she want you?

No one else. Sounds like you know when something isn't working, you change it & grow.

Stay with that. Girls come & go.
You are what's important.

How long have you been together?

I'm not angry at her... just feel a little hurt and upset. We've been together almost a year and living together for the better part of 6 months, and I know in my heart that she is the one. I feel it. I love everything about her, from the way she smiles to the way she sleeps. I know she feels the same about me, she wants me to come be with her. But her not talking to me is making it difficult for me. Its not that I want the attention, she has been through a lot of bad relationships where the guy has given up on her, never called her or responded to her. I'm not like that and never will be. She is the most important thing in my world right now, and I would do anything for her and her daughter. I have never ever, ever felt this way before about any other woman.

I have been being patient about her not talking to me and letting her be her own person. I love her so much it hurts not talking to her. I have barely gotten sleep because I want to talk to her and am worried about her. I know she is fine, but I still want to her her voice.

Like I said, your priorities.

How everything fits together.

Tal said something that sums it up:
"Well you could start by apologizing for being a boob"

Have you done that?

Take it from there...

Oh, her & her daughter, huh? I missed that.

Aside from her being on your work team, are you ready for that too?
Beware, buddy. Be careful of what you want. Where you shop.

"I have never ever, ever felt this way before about any other woman."
Sounds desperate to me.. Never materialized. Honestly.

Date more women. Hehehehe. Get out more.

Check your head.

Yes I am ready for that, I am not being desperate. I have been in several relationships, none have ever made me feel the way I feel about her. I spent every chance I had with her and her daughter and with her alone. I would do anything for them

I have called and left apology messages, if you would read in the above. But like what she said, she wants to feel independent, which I never wanted her not to feel. But I still would like to be able to talk to her about her day. And I know I screwed up when I blew up, not yelling at her but calling her phone trying to get ahold of her and texting her. I have apologized in so many ways that I can with out her being in front of me.

She comes back on the 28th of this month and is going trick or treating with her daughter and I promised I would go. I just wanted advice on how or what I should do when she is here. I know I have to apologize in person, but I don't know if that is going to be enough. I want her in my life and I know she wants me in hers, but I need to set things right.

I agree you need to set things right. That was your original question.
"I think I screwed up my relationship"

Take it easy. Calm down.

She already knows that you have your tail between your legs.
All the apology messages.

She knows.

Its on her. Stick it out until Halloween.
If that isn't the time, then the next.

Forget what you expect. I know you want to say sorry in person.
Give some time.

Im not sure if you got this one:
"she wants to feel independent"

That's what my ex told me too.
Mine said "single"

You can interpret that however you want.

Say sorry for the dumb moves you have made lately and cross your fingers.