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tisgn
Oct 22, 2011, 12:12 AM
There's this girl at work which I adore and like so much, its been two months and we have had a lot of eye contact. I see her coming to work every morning and almost everyday we pass by each other and say good morning with a smirk... we have 3 breaks at work, and we are able to take them whenever we wanted during the 8 hour shift.. the break room was next to the department she was working at so she would see me when taking my breaks so she knew at what exact time I always took my breaks and every time she would take her breaks at the same time as I was.. and it made me really happy. At first I thought it was just a coincidence... until I tested her... one day I decided to change the timing of my breaks and believe it or not there she was. Again following my new break schedule for two months now... so I was really interested in her. I wanted her so bad, and she seemed like she's also interested in me. So I decided to go over to her and introduce myself to her, which I did. I went up to her asked her introduced myself to her with a hand shake, asked her how she was doing and all that... then I said it was really nice meeting you and she said the same to me, in the end I asked her for her phone number and she replied. Her response was like a samurai sword going through my heart it just killed me on the spot she said and I quote "Nooo I can't I'm so sorry I'm married"... I do not understand, I can't think straight anymore. Why did she do that to me? Is she Lying or is she really married? If So why did she act so interested just to kill me on the spot?. Please someone explain the situation to me? I'm really confused I desperately need help, I REALLY REALLY LIKE HER, WHAT SHOULD I DO? WHAT NOW! HELP!

odinn7
Oct 22, 2011, 12:39 AM
Perhaps you misread the signals she was sending. Maybe you read more into it than was really there. You ask, "Why did she do that to me?"... well, really, she didn't do anything to you other than maybe trying to be friendly.

As far as what to do? Just remain on a friendly level with her and forget about any kind of relationship. She is married, told you she is, so it's time to just let it go and move on to someone that is available.

adam_89
Oct 22, 2011, 03:21 AM
Well, does she have a ring on her finger?

If she is married, she did the right thing and you may have put way too much thought into it. Sometimes, when we want something, we notice things and believe what we want, when really the things we noticed and thought were signs were nothing at all.

As odinn7 said, keep it at a friendship level, and don't go over any boudaries because she is married.

talaniman
Oct 22, 2011, 12:49 PM
Just because a female gives you attention or even shows interest, is no reason to get your hopes up, or even be confused by what she does, as strange as it may seem. She could have just been looking for a break buddy, and thought you were cool.

The thing is now that you have more facts, you act accordingly, and get foolish notions of romance out of your head, no matter how you may read her signals.

Females have a knack for attracting a male, married, single, doesn't matter, but the smart male keeps a distance between the ones that are not available, or going no where good, and doesn't get carried away by his own feelings.

You made a break buddy at work, and that's as far as you go.

tisgn
Oct 22, 2011, 04:02 PM
Thank you all for your kind responses... I really appreciate it... I feel much better now, it was my fault not hers... I got carried away cause I liked her so much, but you all are right, ill just be friendly to her and keep it at a friendship level after all she is married and the last thing I want to do is break up a happily married couple that just isn't right at all. That's just not my style, thanks again...

vanheart
Oct 22, 2011, 07:55 PM
There you go.

She may be attractive, but married. And at your workplace.

That's 2 strikes. The third is you thinking otherwise.

Look elsewhere.

mmresd
Oct 25, 2011, 05:37 PM
Unless you can read minds, don't assume someone is interested in you, let this be a lesson learned. Next time, try talking to her first, so that this type of thing doesn't happen to you again.