View Full Version : I'm 18 and I'm in love with a 14 year old girl...
TIMELION420
Oct 21, 2011, 08:44 PM
I know there's something there but am not sure whether to act on it?
mproberts0
Oct 21, 2011, 10:03 PM
1st of all, you're not in "love" you're infatuated. 2nd, you need to wait until she's older and by then you will probably have forgotten about her, and if not, well, then maybe there's something there.
Cat1864
Oct 22, 2011, 06:00 AM
It is better to leave her alone and not act on it. You are at two very different points in your lives and while it may not seem like a big problem right now it will be very soon.
She is at an age when she is just learning about dating and meeting new people. She is going to be learning how good it feels to get male attention (if she is heterosexual or bi-sexual.) Trust is very hard to hold on to when you see her flirting with other people (it is something she has to learn to handle on her own without someone handling it for her or giving her ultimatums about her behavior) and she is going to rebel at anything that seems to try to control her 'fun.'
Her parents may not even allow her to date yet. Depending on where you live, she may even be subject to curfew laws as well as limited on what movies she can see and other places she can go. If her parents are against her dating, then she has no choice but to obey them. If she doesn't, then they can go to the police and have charges brought against you for interfering with their custody.
You on the other hand are either in your last year of high school or already out and starting your adult life. You are going to be wanting to try new things and go places where a 14 year old can't. You are going to want physical contact that she should not be involved in. Think of this, in many places, sexual contact with a 14 year old is illegal. Even touching her through her clothes or her touching you is considered illegal in some states of the US (I don't know about other countries.)
Save yourself and her some heartache and find someone who is closer in age and at the same stage of life as you are.
talaniman
Oct 22, 2011, 11:47 AM
Date a few females your own age and leave the kids alone. No you don't act on this so called love, you leave her alone to grow into an adult.
Not worth getting her, and YOU into a lot of trouble with the protective adults around her, like her parents to name a few, and the cops if you try anything they might not like.
brmach8
Jun 12, 2012, 09:59 PM
Im 14, and I'm in love with a just turned 18 year old. We have fallen deeply in love too. & he just left for the military Monday. Im so scared.. but me and him both want to be with each other forever. He is my light that guids me. We are so open and honest with each other. We know everything about each other and we know when something is wrong. We have talked about our future together and we just know its right for us. Love has no limits. That is something he told me. Love has no age either. If you really love him and he really loves you then he will wait on you and he will be the best he can be. It is June and the guy I love won't be back until December. Right before my birthday. That's a long time not talking to him but we both agreed for him to send me letters through the mail everyday. If you really love him and he loves you it was meant to be. Don't listen to nothing or nobody but your heart. <3