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Kanark
Oct 20, 2011, 10:26 PM
So me and this girl met a few weeks ago and have been talking a good bit (facebook/text every other night on average). We went out to dinner last night and we both had a great time (we went to a nice Chinese place) and we sat and talked/ate for roughly 4 hours. When I suggested we get together again she said she "Completely agrees". At the end of the night I walked her back to her car and gave her a close hug (cheek to cheek, full body contact) and it all went smoothly.
My question: When we get together again I want to end the evening with a kiss, do you think that it I should go for it or wait until we make it "official"?
I understand that the outcome of the second date would obviously have a large effect on the answer but assuming it all goes as well as the first date, if not better.
Thanks in advance guys.
corrigan
Oct 21, 2011, 10:42 AM
Without a doubt, KISS HER!! There are some mindsets that say it's not a date if you don't kiss her. That last thing you want to become is just a friend, and kissing her at the end of an evening is an indisputable declaration of your intentions. I know it can be scary, but look at it as a litmus test. If she doesn't want to kiss you back you know, then she's not interested in you and you can stop wasting your time. If she does want to kiss you back, then you know she is interested and you'll probably get another date. Good luck.
Kahani Punjab
Oct 21, 2011, 10:54 AM
Konark,
Welcome to this beautiful site, first!
Let me make it clear, that cultural bondages, which differ from country to country, sometimes set the mindset of girls in a specific pattern. So, you need to wait, if you are Indian, I mean, dwell in India. Give her hug, as usual, but before departing, seek her permission, by bringing a smile on your face, (without speaking anything), and in a questioning gesture. Just, she will be amazed and will ask, "now what?" and you just press your lips and indicate the sign. She will answer positively or will say 'wait'. Both answers mean 'hey come on, kiss me!' But if she says NO, give her time, to think!
Cat1864
Oct 21, 2011, 02:31 PM
Why don't you ask her what her expectations on a date are? If you can talk to her about other subjects, then why not discuss kissing?
Keep in mind if most of your relationship is on-line, meeting in person is a very big part of getting to know each other. Some people need more face-to-face time before they want or expect physical contact of an intimate nature. So find out from her what she wants.
JudyKayTee
Oct 21, 2011, 02:38 PM
I don't know what you mean by "official." Going steady? In a serious relationship? Something else? I was widowed and hadn't dated in a very long time. My personal story is my now husband (who was also widowed) said to me (on our second date), "I'm a little nervous. I find first kisses to be very awkward." I agreed. He said, "So, why don't I kiss you here, over dinner?" I said okay and so we did.
It was a nice, reassuring kiss, no public display, sweet - it really endeared him to me.
So ask her -
Kanark
Oct 22, 2011, 09:58 AM
I appreciate all the answers guys. You are fantastic. Were going to the state fair next week and I'm going to go for it. I'm sure I will talk to you again soon enough :P