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winkshine
Oct 18, 2011, 09:58 AM
My boyfriend is a major momma's boy and needs her input on everything. He pretty much has her do all his dirty work for him. He even had her call his ex when the ex was trying to get a hold of him about money he owed her, and he is 30!

His mom is very needy and manipulative. If he does not call her for a whole day, she calls and puts a guilt trip on him. I am starting to resent her and her constant butting in and handling everything for him.

She left him and his sister for another guy when they were kids, left them with their father who drank a lot. I think that might have a lot to do with this unhealthy attachment. She pretty much says jump, and he says "How high, Mommy."

Is anyone else dealing with this, or does anyone have any advice on how to approach this?

phillysteakandcheese
Oct 23, 2011, 07:38 PM
Does he want to change this aspect of his life, or are you looking to somehow make him change?

If it's the latter, you're probably wasting your energy. He probably feels taken care of and protected by his mother, not controlled or held back.

You should talk to him if you haven't already. He might appreciate your outside perspective, or might see you as "not understanding" his family commitments.

samantha.janet
Nov 4, 2011, 04:56 PM
Want to be a boy age 17 cute and sexyy have some money want everyone to no I've always been a boy

gissoo
Nov 15, 2011, 09:46 AM
My ex was a mom's boy. I tried to change him , I couldn't. I think you better make it clear that he is an adult and if he doesn't want to be responsible as an adult so he can't be in a relation. My ex is suffering form his mom but he can't quit not to be mom's boy.
So if he doesn't want to change , you better know if you really love him that much to spend your life and time with him.