ladylove25
Oct 17, 2011, 09:33 AM
So I have a friend who dated this girl. This girl has a backstory that she got raped, and now she basically has sex a lot and has told me that she has to stop and that she's a manipulator.
My friend has been cheated on like 5 times while dating this girl. The girl talked about her ex's penis and compared it to my friend's and had broken up cause of that and other reasons. My friend says that she basically took his virginity and was practically raped. After they broke up, he had sex with her on purpose just to prove how pointless it is and that it won't bring him back to her, but then he said it was wrong to do that. He says that, according to her, she wanted to be in the relationship in the beginning only for sex, but later she fell in love with him. He wanted an actual relationship with someone special.
My friend acts like an ******* sometimes, but I can see he was genuine about being with someone special. But they broke up and more drama happened. Funny enough, I had a breakup of my own, and because of this, me and my friend became closer friends than before.
We don't like each other as boyfriend and girlfriend, but hang out and talk about our breakups and why they happened, so that's why he told me all of this. I was shocked because I never realized she was like this. Before, when I was more friends with her than him, she would tell me how much of a jerk he is, but after he told me his side of the story, I realized how bad it was. As a friend, I told him that it would be better to stay away from her because of how she is.
Later on, she accused me of backstabbing her because I didn't back her up and was against her, even though that wasn't my intention. Now she hates me, but I forgave her anyway.
My friend hangs out with two groups -- my group of friends and another that he usually hangs with. Ever since this happened, it seems that she's been manipulating my group of friends not to like my friend. My group was friends with him, but now they don't hang with him like before. Whenever she hangs with them, me and my friend are not present, but whenever me and my friend are present, she's not there.
My friend is angry because they don't ever call him to hang out, but they do call me. He says that his ex would either hang with my group or his group of friends whether I'm there or not. My friend says the other day she showed up with beer, and his group of friends told her to hang out with them because of that. He had told his friend not to invite her because of how he feels, but they didn't want to be mean because she brought the beer and it was expensive.
My friend got very angry over this and believes his group of friends got bought by the beer. He doesn't trust them now, and my group of friends don't call or care about him either. He says that the only person he can trust is me. He feels alone and that nobody likes him.
Is what my friends and his friends doing right? Am I crazy for giving him advice and agreeing with him about this? What should I say to him, or what can he do?
Now he's saying he doesn't care about anything anymore and doesn't have the willpower anymore.
My friend has been cheated on like 5 times while dating this girl. The girl talked about her ex's penis and compared it to my friend's and had broken up cause of that and other reasons. My friend says that she basically took his virginity and was practically raped. After they broke up, he had sex with her on purpose just to prove how pointless it is and that it won't bring him back to her, but then he said it was wrong to do that. He says that, according to her, she wanted to be in the relationship in the beginning only for sex, but later she fell in love with him. He wanted an actual relationship with someone special.
My friend acts like an ******* sometimes, but I can see he was genuine about being with someone special. But they broke up and more drama happened. Funny enough, I had a breakup of my own, and because of this, me and my friend became closer friends than before.
We don't like each other as boyfriend and girlfriend, but hang out and talk about our breakups and why they happened, so that's why he told me all of this. I was shocked because I never realized she was like this. Before, when I was more friends with her than him, she would tell me how much of a jerk he is, but after he told me his side of the story, I realized how bad it was. As a friend, I told him that it would be better to stay away from her because of how she is.
Later on, she accused me of backstabbing her because I didn't back her up and was against her, even though that wasn't my intention. Now she hates me, but I forgave her anyway.
My friend hangs out with two groups -- my group of friends and another that he usually hangs with. Ever since this happened, it seems that she's been manipulating my group of friends not to like my friend. My group was friends with him, but now they don't hang with him like before. Whenever she hangs with them, me and my friend are not present, but whenever me and my friend are present, she's not there.
My friend is angry because they don't ever call him to hang out, but they do call me. He says that his ex would either hang with my group or his group of friends whether I'm there or not. My friend says the other day she showed up with beer, and his group of friends told her to hang out with them because of that. He had told his friend not to invite her because of how he feels, but they didn't want to be mean because she brought the beer and it was expensive.
My friend got very angry over this and believes his group of friends got bought by the beer. He doesn't trust them now, and my group of friends don't call or care about him either. He says that the only person he can trust is me. He feels alone and that nobody likes him.
Is what my friends and his friends doing right? Am I crazy for giving him advice and agreeing with him about this? What should I say to him, or what can he do?
Now he's saying he doesn't care about anything anymore and doesn't have the willpower anymore.