cuctas
Oct 17, 2011, 01:24 AM
I have been with my boyfriend for 5years. He is my first boyfriend and first man. Now he wants to break up with me. I feel very bad. He used to treat me as a princess, always followed me, chased me, listened to me, tolerated me a lot!
So nice man, but he's changed. I don't know why -- maybe because I did too many bad things to him, because I dominate him. I want him to do all the things I want, but this last year, in order to keep him, I have improved a lot. I really try my best to make him happy. I'm a needy, clingy, and childish girl and get jealous very quickly, doubt him always. He always says I need to grow up.
I love him. I don't want to lose him. I feel I belong to him. What can I do to bring him back to me? He doesn't even talk to me, hangs up all my calls. So I also stop talking to him. This last year, most of time when we fight, I beg him and always tell him I will change myself to be a good girl, to be independent, to give him space, and to take responsible for our relationship (my parents are against us, I only leave home but didn't talk to them peacefully).
I didn't go with him to his country to stay because of my parents, so he gets a lot of pressure to work very hard in a strange country. He said he did his best, but won't do more. I really miss the him. Three years ago, he was so sweet to me. I have seen him work very hard to give me a good future, to buy a house and show my parents he is serious about me.
What can I do to make him love me again? Our main problem is we come from different countries. He works in my country. My parents are against us and asked him to buy a house here and stay here. After five years of this, he said he won't do it. He feels pressured and cannot see his future here, because our country doesn't give a visa forever even if you get married to a local girl. Also, he doesn't want to pay loans all his life.
I have to think about me. If I go with him to his country, what about my parents? I'm the only child and need to take care of them. What can I do? I'm very very very confused now. I don't know -- should I bring him back? How?
So nice man, but he's changed. I don't know why -- maybe because I did too many bad things to him, because I dominate him. I want him to do all the things I want, but this last year, in order to keep him, I have improved a lot. I really try my best to make him happy. I'm a needy, clingy, and childish girl and get jealous very quickly, doubt him always. He always says I need to grow up.
I love him. I don't want to lose him. I feel I belong to him. What can I do to bring him back to me? He doesn't even talk to me, hangs up all my calls. So I also stop talking to him. This last year, most of time when we fight, I beg him and always tell him I will change myself to be a good girl, to be independent, to give him space, and to take responsible for our relationship (my parents are against us, I only leave home but didn't talk to them peacefully).
I didn't go with him to his country to stay because of my parents, so he gets a lot of pressure to work very hard in a strange country. He said he did his best, but won't do more. I really miss the him. Three years ago, he was so sweet to me. I have seen him work very hard to give me a good future, to buy a house and show my parents he is serious about me.
What can I do to make him love me again? Our main problem is we come from different countries. He works in my country. My parents are against us and asked him to buy a house here and stay here. After five years of this, he said he won't do it. He feels pressured and cannot see his future here, because our country doesn't give a visa forever even if you get married to a local girl. Also, he doesn't want to pay loans all his life.
I have to think about me. If I go with him to his country, what about my parents? I'm the only child and need to take care of them. What can I do? I'm very very very confused now. I don't know -- should I bring him back? How?