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lyxander
Oct 16, 2011, 07:57 PM
Hi.I'm 18. I don't know what to do.
We've had sex three times.

First, on August 28, my boyfriend used withdrawal method and I didn't get pregnant.
Second,was on October 8, and he used same method. He pulled it out but it was too late. The sperm was already inside before he withdraw. And I am waiting for any signs and symptoms for about one week

And the last was, October 16. He still used the same method but we still continue having sex even he was ejaculated already. And withdraw again once the sperm comes out

We did it for about three times even if he's ejaculating. He said, I should urinate. But I think, that would prevent from the sperm to washed out.

Do you think I will get pregnant?
My LMP was October 2. I'm worried and afraid because I'm not ready.

ScottGem
Oct 17, 2011, 03:50 AM
Anytime you engage in sexual intercourse you risk pregnancy. The withdrawal "method" is almost no protection at all. So your risk of being pregnant is pretty high.

If you are "worried and afraid because I'm not ready." then why are you taking such risks? No one should engage in sexual intercourse until they are ready to have a child. No form of birth control is 100%.

All you can do now is wait until you miss your period and take a test. For thew future you can stop engaging in such risky behavior.

DoulaLC
Oct 17, 2011, 05:08 PM
Unfortunately, your situation is the perfect of example of why the withdrawal method is not reliable for many couples.

Obviously his not withdrawing in time defeats the whole idea, and once has has ejaculated, you can not continue sex unprotected as there will still be sperm present from the previous ejaculation.

Your urinating will not wash out the sperm. That is incorrect information that many believe to be true.

As ScottGem said, if you are not in a position to handle an unplanned pregnancy, you should not be having sex. At the very least you and your boyfriend need more education about proper birth control methods so that you can lessen the chance of a pregnancy occurring.

Speak to your doctor, talk to a trusted family member, visit a pregnancy center, research online, to obtain more information.

As was mentioned, you will need to wait until when you would expect your next period and see what happens. In the meantime, stop having sex unless you are protected.

If it is the situation for you, do not allow your boyfriend to talk you into just using withdrawal. If you truly care about each other, you will both do what you can to make sure you are using proper protection if you are going to continue to engage in sex.

lyxander
Oct 19, 2011, 02:04 AM
OKAY. Thank you so much.. I feel bloating always. Is this one of a sign of pregnancy? I'm on 3 days now after we have conceived. I'm still waiting for any symptoms. Thank you very much. I'll not do this kind of thing again without any birth control.

Fr_Chuck
Oct 19, 2011, 05:25 AM
You will or may not have any signs before you miss your next period, that is normally and usually the first real "sign"

Withdraw is not a real method, there is plenty of sperm in all of the early fluids to make someone pregnant and of course the guy often comes out too late.

At this point, it is just a waiting time till you either have or miss your next period.

lyxander
Oct 23, 2011, 04:07 PM
Hi.. it's already one week after we have conceived but I don't still feel any signs if I am really pregnant.

DoulaLC
Oct 23, 2011, 04:14 PM
I believe you mean that it has been a week after you had unprotected sex. To conceive means that you did indeed become pregnant.

You will need to wait and see what happens when you expect your period for November. The earliest you could test would be a few days before your period is due. However, the tests tend to be more accurate once a period is actually missed.

Just because you had sex does not automatically mean you will become pregnant. If you had become pregnant from October 16, you wouldn't likely be feeling anything this soon.

Again, wait until your next period is due and see what happens. Lesson learned... you are smart to now know that proper protection is needed every time.

lyxander
Nov 4, 2011, 04:02 PM
Hi. I just want to ask. Because I am still worried if I am really pregnant or not. We had sex on Oct.16 then my due to my next period must be on Nov.2 this month but I didn't. I am experiencing cramping a day before Nov.2 until yesterday. Is this a sign that I am pregnant?

DoulaLC
Nov 4, 2011, 06:03 PM
It is possible, but it could also be your period will start soon. Give it another week and see what happens. If no period after another week, try a pregnancy test. Make sure you follow the directions carefully.

Also... once he has ejaculated in you, the possibility of pregnancy is already there. Your urinating will not stop that. If he enters again, after an ejaculation, it is possible to become pregnant even if he doesn't ejaculate again because there can still be sperm present.

Consider another form of birth control as you are not using the withdrawal method correctly. It is something that needs to be done correctly to have some effectiveness. Even then, it is one of the least effective forms of contraception.

lyxander
Nov 5, 2011, 02:21 PM
Until now, I haven't my period yet. I always feel cramping and my breast is sore,it is painful when I touched it.Are these two signs of pregnancy? But it could also be signs that my period will start. But it is already Nov.6. I am now really worried because my boyfriend and I had an misunderstanding and he said, he's almost tired of me. And what if I will know that I am pregnant? I'm so worried. Don't know what to do. Please help me..

DoulaLC
Nov 5, 2011, 02:29 PM
You could always try a pregnancy test and see what results you get. You are correct, it may just be your period about to start, but taking a test may put your mind at ease for now.

If you decide to try one, be sure to follow the directions carefully. If it is negative... wait another week or so and see if your period shows up late. If still no period, try another test at that time. Excessive worry itself can cause cycles to be off for some women.

lyxander
Nov 5, 2011, 03:14 PM
Where can I buy a pregnancy test? Is it expensive? I'm am ashamed to buy. If this may be my period, so I am now irregular at this time? Because for the past few months my cycle is 30 days. But now, it's already been a month and 4 days. I should be worried because this Tuesday, our class will start. What if I will go to a doctor to have a pregnancy test? I really want to know if I am pregnant or not because if it's not, I can stop worrying. And I'll never do again what I did.

DoulaLC
Nov 5, 2011, 03:21 PM
Where do you live? If in the UK or US, and many other countries, you can buy a home pregnancy test at most supermarkets, chemists, or pharmacies. You can even find them at the Pound/Dollar Store.

Just be sure to read the directions and follow them carefully.

lyxander
Nov 6, 2011, 06:52 PM
Hi. Please help me. I am now having discharges, and the color is brown. What does it mean? And I am experiencing a cramp right now. Am I really pregnant? I want to go to a doctor but I don't have money.

DoulaLC
Nov 7, 2011, 03:56 AM
Might be your period about to start. See what happens over the next several days. Again, if you don't get a period, try a test.